Female to female micro-aggression is alive and well at Microsoft!! It is hard enough being a female in a male dominated sector but getting picked at by passive aggressive superiors is astounding and a bit sad. Why does this occur?
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- Intel / Mktg nononsenseMy observation in general is that women are often treated worse by other women than by men. I don't think this is unique to Microsoft.
- Amazon Beebos 🐝Internalized sexism is real. We live in a culture that values toxic masculinity and many women have had to adopt these traits to survive. There used to only be one seat at the table for women, so the hunger-games mentality was a requisite. As more space is made for us, it's hard to evolve past methods that no longer are the most effective just because once upon a time they were. I don't see this same mentality with the young women I mentor, and I believe that slowly it will fade away.
- US Bank MasterFlapMost people won’t like the answer, but the reason his happens is purely human nature/biology. Males AND females compete for mates, and generally for power/influence/etc.
That’s why typically the best work relationships are fostered between opposite sex vs same sex.
So if you’re a male, seek out a female boss (that won’t feel threatened by you, this is challenging if you’re in a technical role).
If you’re a female, seek out a male boss.
This is a predictable pattern that is comically reproducible at practically every social/working environment.
Or in short...the minute you tease out a superior’s insecurity you’re on their shit list forever, specially same sex relationships.
- Amazon tc-gtfo“Male dominated sector”
for fucks sake,it about the “smarter dominated sector”
- Microsoft Ch hvjhjvjmoreI had two women managers. Both were the worst ever and worst time in my career. For some reason women have higher expectations on other women. Both just targeted me and I never figured out why. In both cases it was probably a small thing and they just assumed the worst intentions. Don’t know how to fix. I am very nervous about reporting to a women. If they just talk to you instead of making assumptions or stories it would be easy.
- Microsoft / Legal JXIR57Gender bias is pervasive across all aspects of society. That's why it's called societal bias and not personal bias. There's no logical reason for women to be exempt from this bias, as they are also members of society. It just feels worse, because we hope they are more attuned to bias that impacts them... But it's not a given.
Oh, and the passive aggressive crap? That seems to be a personality trait of the Pacific Northwesterner. If you're at MSFT HQ in Redmond, you'll just have to get used to it, maybe check out some psychology books on how to deal with passive aggressiveness.
- Yes, Pacific NW passive-aggressive behavior is pervasive, especially in Seattle. I’ve lived in a lot of places and it seems like the area is becoming the SoCal of the NW - it’s all about TC, where you live, what you drive, etc.
I’d rather be back in MT where people don’t bullshit, are impressed by character not where you ate dinner, and where the sun shines.Feb 9 0
- Cisco Go!Sometimes they just don't like the fact you are younger and prettier 😄....
- When I worked at Microsoft, I rarely had issues with men - the one major time was with a male SWD manager, but it was clearly cultural.
It was the fellow women who were f$&@ing horrible. And, no, not the fantastic millennials people complained about - it was the group of women who were in their 40s and 50s, never worked anywhere else, and had huge chips on their shoulders.
I did, however, have one fantastic female manager there; the other female manager I had was horrible.