Married guys, how do you prepare for FANG?
I have a FANG interview coming up shortly(1 month). I have never gone deep in LC stuffs yet. So, I am spending much hours to prepare daily. 2-3 hours weekdays and 6-7 hours on weekends. This makes my wife upset and sulky. Because, I cannot spend time with family on weekends on going out etc. I have read blogs and posts where people state that they put similar hours preparing. I am wondering how they are able to cull out the time from their married lives. How do you manage to spend so much time while married? How does your spouse react to it? Maybe preparing for FANG is not a thing for married folks? Edit: i have an one year old kid. I wake up morning 5 am to study so that I can spend time with wife and kid on after-work hours. My wife is a homemaker. She is of kind that values family and friends than anything else. Job/career is nothing but a sustained means to generate money which can be useful for life as per her views. Also, we are south indian family. So, our values are of typical south indian family.
Everyone’s situation is different, but once you get married you become a unit and you need to make decisions as a family. Up front you need to have the discussion regarding whether or not FANG is right for you and if yes then you need to make your SO understand the upfront commitment involved and respect that. It’s your responsibility to lay everything out on the table Together you need to decide on a course of action And then you both need to commit to executing on that course of action, maybe reevaluating if it become clear that expectations were not properly managed
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in theory yes two became one and blah blah ... in practice is way different. even in a family there are different angles and points of view when it comes about almost anything beyond basics.
There is no need to disturb harmony in the home. You seem to have aggressive hours. Dont burn yourself out. Maybe u cud spend less time each day and postpone interview by 1-2 months.
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Tell her about the TC you might get and how it will benefit the family.
It will only gets busier over time. You can hire help at home now. The older to get, harder it is to switch. You should have a conversation and hope she will appreciate the effort you are making
Personally I like a lot of personal time for my interests. Just curious, doesn't your spouse have her (I'm pretty sure it's her) person interests to be occupied while you work your LC? And as a former googler, fewer hours over a longer term is a better strategy.
my wife is usually my biggest fan when I’m working towards a career goal. never had a problem when needed to prepare for interviews
For my wife, job/career is nothing but a sustained means to generate money
just tell her that you need the support and you do it for the family; is the effort you put in now that will very possibly pay off quite soon
I am on the same boat. I am targeting FANG in 4 more months. I am married, and we have a kid who is less than 1 year old. I study *every* day for 3 hours. No excuses. I do this during the night (9.30 - 0.30). Mon to Sun. I am lucky that my wife understands the benefits of me succeeding on changing companies. I still have time to spend with my kiddo and also do some chores at home. It’s hard. I’m exhausted. But, nobody said it will be easy. Keep up Bro! You can do it :-)
Thanks. How many hours do you sleep? Aren't you already exhausted from work by the time you start preparing ?
I sleep 7 hours and a half. I take a small nap (usually with the baby on my chest) of 1 ~ 1.30 hours this is around 7pm. I make sure I have a healthy diet, no processed foods, and also I do 30 minutes of work out everyday.
Damn. My girlfriend does that sometimes. She is usually supportive, but with me spending most of the weekends preparing, she gets annoyed. I can only imagine how married people with kids has to struggle.
It takes more practice, I would say having interview lined up and preparing will make it tough with family. Just keep trying in your free time and spend time with your family. Practice makes perfect. You will get there.. Then get ready to take interview. That's much more solid plan in my humble opinion.
Wait till u have kids and it’s just impossible. With spouse you should be able to do it make her understand what it means to both of you and how it will help u both financially in future. Once you have kids forget about LC
We have a kid(1 year old). In weekdays i wake at 5 AM and prepare so that I can spend after-work hours with family
Thanks for the reply