I have a FANG interview coming up shortly(1 month). I have never gone deep in LC stuffs yet. So, I am spending much hours to prepare daily. 2-3 hours weekdays and 6-7 hours on weekends.
This makes my wife upset and sulky. Because, I cannot spend time with family on weekends on going out etc.
I have read blogs and posts where people state that they put similar hours preparing. I am wondering how they are able to cull out the time from their married lives.
How do you manage to spend so much time while married? How does your spouse react to it? Maybe preparing for FANG is not a thing for married folks?
Edit: i have an one year old kid. I wake up morning 5 am to study so that I can spend time with wife and kid on after-work hours. My wife is a homemaker. She is of kind that values family and friends than anything else. Job/career is nothing but a sustained means to generate money which can be useful for life as per her views. Also, we are south indian family. So, our values are of typical south indian family.
- Salesforce herokuWait till u have kids and it’s just impossible. With spouse you should be able to do it make her understand what it means to both of you and how it will help u both financially in future. Once you have kids forget about LC
- Why are u planning to switch now then ? Even after u switch initial 6 -12 months will be hectic as you have to prove yourself. I would hold back till kid is 3 at least ( these are the golden days and you won’t get back ) . Also I would side with ur spouse then. Again this is personal opinion you know you situation the best. All the best in what ever u chooseFeb 102
- Fair enough if u have spent months on this give it a try by studying for another month. Even G has been my dream but with family things change and so do dreams not trying to discourage here. Also once kids start going to school u could have more time for LC and make it to G. Though u will lose financially by not switching now. It’s a compromise which only you can decide what works for u
- I am on the same boat. I am targeting FANG in 4 more months. I am married, and we have a kid who is less than 1 year old. I study *every* day for 3 hours. No excuses. I do this during the night (9.30 - 0.30). Mon to Sun. I am lucky that my wife understands the benefits of me succeeding on changing companies. I still have time to spend with my kiddo and also do some chores at home. It’s hard. I’m exhausted. But, nobody said it will be easy. Keep up Bro! You can do it :-)
- Atom Tickets ddmBoth my wife and I share a goal of potentially retiring earlier than 60s. We came to a shared conclusion that at the moment (when I had a non-FANG job) the most productive strategy to get closer to that goal would be for me to get into FANG. We gave it a time limit of about 6 months, and I began studying and interviewing. 4.5 months later I got into N. Been rejected from G and F. My wife’s support helped me to stick to the plan and finish “the race”. My advice would be: figure out what’s important for your family and how FANG fits into it. Then build a plan: what companies in what order you will go after. Set boundaries for your study time, go to the library if you have to. Prioritize sleep. Be ready to fail. Good luck.
- my wife is usually my biggest fan when I’m working towards a career goal. never had a problem when needed to prepare for interviews
- New / EngsparkedEveryone’s situation is different, but once you get married you become a unit and you need to make decisions as a family. Up front you need to have the discussion regarding whether or not FANG is right for you and if yes then you need to make your SO understand the upfront commitment involved and respect that.
It’s your responsibility to lay everything out on the table
Together you need to decide on a course of action
And then you both need to commit to executing on that course of action, maybe reevaluating if it become clear that expectations were not properly managed
- Heh. Maybe some news site should take up on this thread too - how ridiculous testing requirements to pass a tech interview, which are rarely connected to the actual job functions, are essentially alienating anyone who has family responsibilities.
- Cisco JetskiiThere is no need to disturb harmony in the home. You seem to have aggressive hours. Dont burn yourself out. Maybe u cud spend less time each day and postpone interview by 1-2 months.
- LabCorp / IT[🗿]moreIt takes more practice, I would say having interview lined up and preparing will make it tough with family.
Just keep trying in your free time and spend time with your family. Practice makes perfect. You will get there..
Then get ready to take interview. That's much more solid plan in my humble opinion.
- Akamai Technologies badass1Wondering if any females on the same boat. Married and a kid. G the dream.
- SAP rainysatMy wife is after my life to prepare for FANG and get my ass in one of those. She doesnt make any weekend plans assuming I will sit and study 😂 Does all the cooking and chores herself so that I can continue to work. But I start to feel guilty and end up helping out.
- I recently got an offer from one of the FAANGs in Bay Area. I had put in 1-1.5hr weekday and 3-4hr weekend for 4 months. I will strongly recommend Elements of Programming Interview written by authors from Google/Apple etc. I did 0 leetcode infact I did not knew what was it before joining blind. The book I said has loads of dynamic/greedy/graphs etc type of problems. Infact my wife was happy when I was preparing she said she got her own time (she is quite busy with her office load on weekdays) and she is happier now as I have practically doubled my TC.
- I have a suggestion. Why don't both of you to to get into FAANG? You can allot time for prepare and support each other? And both of you can double your salary. Make it a team thing.
Yes you might have a kid but take turns and deal with it.
- Ah no wonder. You have your job, your career, and lots of things in your life.
Her life on the other hand comprises of the baby and you. Maybe if she fills her life with other stuff as well, she won't need so much of your time.
Why don't you first focus on helping her find an outlet for self actualizing herself? It doesn't have to be a corporate job, so many things- outreach, volunteering, community building, art, etc.
Once she has a full and busy life she'll be able to be more supportive of you as well.
Taking care of a baby is a full time job I get it but it's also monotonous and hard if that's all your focused on all day.
- Hold on you said your wife is a housewife. So it should be damn easy for you as compared to us whose wife is working. I would suggest you stop posting and commenting on blind and get on with the job :) Wasting time here won't get you into FANG and nor into FAANG so get started man. Do you even have any interviews lined up or it's all castles in the air at the moment and you are trying to proactively prepare ?? If you don't mind what's your domain of work ? Also would suggest don't consider Amazon as they are shit with their pay and culture as I here from my friends there ..
- I think op should update that he also have a 1 year old kid ( that changes a lot ). People have been unfairly judging his wife.