I have a FANG interview coming up shortly(1 month). I have never gone deep in LC stuffs yet. So, I am spending much hours to prepare daily. 2-3 hours weekdays and 6-7 hours on weekends.
This makes my wife upset and sulky. Because, I cannot spend time with family on weekends on going out etc.
I have read blogs and posts where people state that they put similar hours preparing. I am wondering how they are able to cull out the time from their married lives.
How do you manage to spend so much time while married? How does your spouse react to it? Maybe preparing for FANG is not a thing for married folks?
Edit: i have an one year old kid. I wake up morning 5 am to study so that I can spend time with wife and kid on after-work hours. My wife is a homemaker. She is of kind that values family and friends than anything else. Job/career is nothing but a sustained means to generate money which can be useful for life as per her views. Also, we are south indian family. So, our values are of typical south indian family.
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It’s your responsibility to lay everything out on the table
Together you need to decide on a course of action
And then you both need to commit to executing on that course of action, maybe reevaluating if it become clear that expectations were not properly managed
Just keep trying in your free time and spend time with your family. Practice makes perfect. You will get there..
Then get ready to take interview. That's much more solid plan in my humble opinion.
Just curious, doesn't your spouse have her (I'm pretty sure it's her) person interests to be occupied while you work your LC?
And as a former googler, fewer hours over a longer term is a better strategy.
Good luck 👍🏿 and you are lucky to find such supportive partner.
Yes you might have a kid but take turns and deal with it.
Her life on the other hand comprises of the baby and you. Maybe if she fills her life with other stuff as well, she won't need so much of your time.
Why don't you first focus on helping her find an outlet for self actualizing herself? It doesn't have to be a corporate job, so many things- outreach, volunteering, community building, art, etc.
Once she has a full and busy life she'll be able to be more supportive of you as well.
Taking care of a baby is a full time job I get it but it's also monotonous and hard if that's all your focused on all day.