I ran into this guy last night. He was a jerk in undergrad who shouldn't have been there in first place. He bunked classes and flunked exams while I worked hard as a kid from small town all trying to be the 'perfect' son and student. While I am still trying to be a 'perfect employee' who is munching excel sheets on a Friday night, my friend is having his time of life. This January he married a co-worker, an ultra hot latina. He just bought his second car, a Porsche and already moved into a new house in Bay Area while I am still struggling with stupid housemates. He says all day he chills with his wife at workplace while they make very good money, and nights with their gang. He felt sad for me when I told about my current TC and state of life . He offered to give me a ride but I refused. When will have a perfect life where I can really feel happy? When I will run into a co-worker who has a crush on me too? When will I have my own Audi? When will have romantic trips to Cancun?When will I have a perfect life? What do I need to do get one? TC: 220 YOE: 9
Not everyone gets what they want. Tell that starving child that you are not happy with 220k a year. It’s all about perspective.
^ this
Sounds like you are waiting for things to be handed to you. Keep on waiting, or do something about it.
Not everyone is that fortunate, but some are
You are more fortunate than most. I make half as much as you and feel rich because I make more than both my parents did combined at the peaks of their careers. You can easily afford nice things on your income. I save nearly half of my income and feel very fortunate. Don't care much about having a nice car, but if I wanted I could easily go buy a nice car like a Tesla. You should be able to afford even nicer vehicles than me, seeing as you've been working for longer than me and make double.
Don’t believe the bullshit others say. It may seem they are having a perfect life or try to paint that picture but reality is far different. Some people are very good in trying to make others jealous. Try to find out what makes you happy in your life and work towards that. If it’s a companion then work on yourself, join a gym or some other activity, get in a better state of mental health. No one wants to spend their life with a downer attitude person. Your TC is 220k there are literally millions of people who would want your life and that salary.
When does the guy born without a leg or an arm get to complain about someone having a Porsche?
Don't be bitter, be better. Working hard only benefits the people you work for so start being the boss. Outgoing people are more successful because people like them. Life is a blast, enjoy it!
What if you're not an outgoing person?
As with anything you can learn. Introverts can play a convincing outgoing person who people like. It will become natural once you start seeing the rewards in terms of opportunities, money, dates etc
You definitely don't sound like you have 9 yoe. More like college senior lusting over friend's FANG return offer. Chill out mate!
I hear you. It is especially hard when your peers get ahead of you. And that ‘getting ahead’ could be anything. Getting a girlfriend, Getting married, having a baby, getting promoted at work, buying a house, buying the next investment property, buying a house with a water front,buying a porche, travelling to exotic places etx, etx. The race is endless. While I understand that it is upsetting, I am positive you have good things in your life. Look at those and cherish them. Find work that you really enjoy and are passionate about. Ang Lee, famously, was once told to start a chinese restaurant, by his inlaws. All his peers were earning way more than him. And he was jobless. No one would bet money on a screenplay written by an unknown asian. He stuck to his passions and today we have immortal movies. We are subconsciously forced into being a rat, but we can consciously opt out of it, and do what we want. Do what you want. Find your passion and work hard at it. (ps: if you are on a h1b following passions, is tricky to impossible, i am hoping you do not suffer from this aliement, like us peasants ;)) Good luck!
It's not 0k so be quiet.
Ask yourself - what makes me happy ? Then ask again - who the fuck is stopping me from being happy ? Stop cribbing. Don’t look at things superficially. Spend time doing stuff that you love. Don’t be a dog working day and night. Get a hobby. There is ton of stuff to do. I recently started learning raspberry pi and it’s super fun. In a Nutshell - care for yourself and don’t be a jerk. Karma is a bitc$