Women in their 30s - Are you worried about having kids in time?Dec 22, 2018
This is solely out of curiosity because I have many female friends in their 30s but I only know one of them who is actually having kids. I’m wondering where people are / what situation they’re in.
- Yelp yovnskcmillennials in general are not having kids because it’s too damn expensive, even if you and your spouse make 400k. Housing, daycare, etc. too much x-X
- Microsoft zxql16I’m 35, single, want kids with the right partner. No partner. Sometimes I worry and sometimes I rest knowing that there wasn’t anyone in the past I should have had kids with so it’s not like I missed the right opportunity. I cry a lot but I’ve been trying to focus my energy on the opportunities before me: career and furthering my education.
Edit: I’m female.
- Facebook Irb3&9Wish you the best, Microsoft. I’m 30 and was close once to marrying, but not mature enough at the time. I am now and but alas, single. Male but also want to start a family soon. Focus on being the best you in spirit, heart, and mind and be open. I’m trying to be too. Career and education are important, but secondary to being a good (emphasis) human being. Your future partner will see these qualities. That’s what life is aboutDec 22, 20183
- Hey, so I found a great partner and had a baby at 34. And now I wish I'd never married but just decided to have a baby on my own. My sister was a single mom and said she actually enjoyed it because she never had to negotiate how to parent with anyone else. What she said was the law. The first few months would be the hardest, but after that... You can do it without a partner.Feb 42
- I’d be terrified if were women turning 30 with no marriage prospects. Unless I didn’t want kids, then who cares I guess.
- Credit Karma Fb_ftwWith online dating now, generally the only women who end up single for long periods are individuals that are trying to date above their league. This is particularly disastrous for women, because they can score dates with men outside their league, just can’t keep the guys interested.
Nothing wrong with having standards, just understand its inversely related with the probability of finding a partner who will stay with you.
- Most of us are just looking for an emotional connection and security. Men who are emotionally open and are not scared out run to the hills when you open up to them are rare. There is really nothing like league.
30+ year old women typically don't need material comfort from a marriage so TC and all really doesn't even matter.
- Salesforce PzVO12I met my husband at work. We were both mid 20s. Dated for ~5 years then got married at 30. Decided we both could not work at the same company in case of layoffs so I moved around and finally landed at Salesforce after a few stints at other tech companies. We traveled, dined out, etc. during our first few years of marriage and then we both came to the realization that we wanted something more. Weekends were repetitive and boring. We never wanted kids but then it just clicked for us. We had our first child when I was 36 then our second at 38. Kids have made our marriage stronger. I know this is not always the case but it just worked out that way for us. I turn 40 this year and now I’m more afraid something is going to happen to me and I won’t get to see them grow up. Its forced lifestyle changes I probably would not have made otherwise - all for the better. It’s a big perspective change from 10 years ago. When we came to the realization that we valued experiences and family more than material things, kids made sense....
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- Microsoft Si3>¥mI waited to find the right partner and am really glad I did. We got married in our mid 30s and had our child in our late 30s. Single ladies out there - stay strong and know that you can have it all. Also, if you can, freeze your eggs. That gives you a lot more options when you are ready/have found your partner.
Another option to think about - if you are self sufficient and ready for a child, why not go ahead and have the child? You don’t need a man to do that! I strongly believe that one should marry because the other person truly enhances your life. Not because of societal norms
- I'm really interested in the answer to this. As a nearly mid 30s guy I have zero interest in having a child. I still feel way too young / like I want to relax and enjoy my life before (maybe) going down that road.
10/10 I'd rather play a video game, relax, or work on a hobby. I can't see how I can keep any of that sanity after having a child.
I have a partner who's a few years away from 30 and am curious how other women here feel.
- The key is the right partner and the same approach to raising kids. With that you should only be exposed to positive aspects of having a child. The problem is that the dynamic might change because once a baby comes along you are going to be something like number 6 on your partner's priority list (assuming you're a dude). It probably takes like 3-4 years for you to come back into the top 5.
- Comcast / Productnomad10038moreThe question reads like this to me, "EVERY woman should have gotten married AND having kids". Says who? (Prob my mom).
While I could understand why some 30s women might be worried, just turning 30 myself, have not, in my whole life, concerned a bit.
To be transparent, I am Asian and 1st generation immigrant to the U.S. So I could understand there might be pressure from friends & families. But i know my priorities and becoming a mother is not.
Too many things I want to learn, too many places I yet to visit and I would love to work with non-profit in education. Plus, I have a somewhat busy social life. I truly appreciate what I have got in career and life; I don't need a husband or kid to make me feel "whole".
If somehow I end up wanting to have one, I am happy to adopt.
P.S. many of my friends, who are successful women in tech or other industries, over 40s, never married, no children.
- Amazon lfhskaThis makes me really happy to hear as someone in their mid twenties who doesn’t want to get married or have kids. How are you and your friends doing it though? I feel like my friends are in this phase currently where all they do is talk about relationships and marriage. It’s kind of getting on my nerves and I wonder how I will handle it when they are all married and have kids and I’m doing my own thing. It seems like I would be lonely if my friends have their own families/ stressed if all people do is ask me why I don’t have that.Jan 201
- If you’re +30 and single direct message me and I’ll help you out with a deposit.