looking for dating advice

Microsoft charmlucky
Aug 29 126 Comments

i am a 5’2” 130 lb indian woman. i look like a 6/10 - maybe a 7.5 when i care about hair and makeup. I have dated indian guys before but want to date with more diversity before i figure out what i want. any tips to date seriously ? i am not looking to hook up only hence no dating apps ( from experience they are a waste of my time )

TC:315
age: 30

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  • Symantec kamirahan
    PM me
    Aug 29 7
    • Symantec kamirahan
      Non indian with serious relationship hmm good luck with that
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft 25tens
      Not every serious relationship is an arranged marriage son. Calm the judgment.
      Aug 29
    • Symantec gaetonde
      Amen
      Aug 29
    • Oracle qmnzs
      Probablg part of why she wanted no Indian, communication skillz including catching what they be saying :-)
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      🤦🏽‍♀️
      Aug 30
  • IBM akcnd
    You sound like a great catch. And 315 TC, that's impressive
    Aug 29 8
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      Flirt better guys
      Aug 29
    • Salesforce / Mgmt
      Ohana Gang

      Salesforce Mgmt

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      Ohana Gangmore
      This is painful
      Aug 29
    • Procore Obama2024
      🦵🏽
      Aug 29
    • Fitbit lba575
      There’s got to be a huge market for whatever percentage of guys in tech who actually know how to talk with and pick up girls to coach those who don’t because wow this is bad lol
      Aug 29
    • Dont you think you are overacting
      Aug 29
  • Facebook I♥️💦🥧
    5-2 130? Damn hit the gym first!
    Aug 29 11
    • Damn you’re harsh. That could be her muscle weight and that is a normal BMI. And I’m a girl.
      Aug 29
    • @mvppppp i think she is not interested in girls. You dont have to be nice😂😂
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      Well I was 115 2 years ago. Guess what ? No one gives a damn
      Aug 30
    • Visa / Eng kjzO64
      “No one gives a damn” in what context? Are you genetically predisposed to store fat in a traditionally attractive manner, which enables you to add 13% more body fat on a small frame without concessions on appearance? Or are you emphasizing that people don’t care about moderate weight changes in polite/professional company?
      Aug 30
    • Apple chuck777
      No that’s roughly 24 BMI, borderline overweight.
      Aug 31
  • New VFcO68
    Sorry but I do not date 6/10. Nice try
    Aug 29 4
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

      Microsoft Product

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      Brazukamore
      6/10 on her view, which is very likely optimistic.
      Aug 29
    • @new first let everyone rate you by your looks
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      Pic or STFU
      Aug 30
    • New / Eng LGNj72
      😂😂😂 pic or stfu >> Tc or gtfo
      Aug 30
  • Amazon / Eng gg96
    Get some social hobbies to meet guys, then ask out the ones you like.
    Aug 29 6
    • Pandora scrolllock
      Some guys are into that. The guys you probably want to date.
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft 25tens
      Have a growth mindset. Be yourself. But make sure to snap into the desired/prescribed mold before your connect or you will get 80% rewards, I mean, commitment.
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      😂
      Aug 30
    • Expedia Group / Data exitpedia
      What pandora said
      Aug 30
    • Google focusonthe
      I'd find that pretty attractive. If you play tennis, let's make a playdate!
      Aug 30
  • Apple
    TWB-tWBu16

    Apple

    BIO
    I’m a software engineer. Right now my job is focused on full stack web dev but I love everything related to tech
    TWB-tWBu16more
    PM if you want to hire me as a dating coach. I can help you become more attractive, help you ask out more guys, etc

    With the right clothes, hairstyle, exercise/diet plan, etc we can get you looking like a 9 or a 10 before too long
    Aug 29 20
    • Apple tell me how much you charge for diet tips
      Aug 29
    • Fitbit lba575
      Lol wtf is this post
      Aug 29
    • If you dont want coach ignore
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      Lol what. Everyone here is smart enough to know what they need to do to lose weight / dress better etc.
      I’m not going to go that far just for a date
      Aug 30
    • Apple
      TWB-tWBu16

      Apple

      BIO
      I’m a software engineer. Right now my job is focused on full stack web dev but I love everything related to tech
      TWB-tWBu16more
      There is more to dating coach than just telling you to look fitter and dress better. A lot of it is working away your fears, misconceptions, bad habits, self-doubts, emotional baggage, etc related to dating. It’s all about asking how can I hold myself back less and what actions can I take to improve my chances of success.

      I charge $20/hr which is a very fair price. I can coach in person, over the phone, or in video call. I dunno if I’m allowed by Blind’s rules to advertise like this though. I haven’t looked into Blind’s rules enough to know the answer
      Aug 30
  • Fitbit lba575
    Lol no offense but I seriously doubt you are a 7.5
    Aug 29 6
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      No offense taken. How are you so sure though ? Are you intimidated with the thought of a girl in tech who could possibly be a 7.5 ?
      Aug 30
    • Fitbit lba575
      Eh you might be alright and true I don’t know for sure but I’ve worked with and known a few somewhat stocky 30ish Indian chicks and none of them were 7.5s
      Aug 30
    • Cerner / Eng Zenobia
      Fitbit - what’s your definition or how are you measuring 7.5? By looks?
      Aug 30
    • Fitbit lba575
      Haha obviously
      Aug 30
    • Intel Pooky_Chad
      Yup, no girl in Tech is up to a 5
      Aug 31
  • Amazon jQpf16
    I am an Indian woman, older than you, lower TC. I consider myself a 7, I met my husband on tinder. He is European, I would say be really clear about what you want. I dated a lot of commitment phobes, same template different guy. I realised my pattern and decided I wanted to find a partner for Life. Boom, met my husband, married within a year of meeting. Mental clarity is half the battle won, be your authentic self and relax about it. Enjoy dating, meeting people and be a good version of yourself. It will work out, ignore the morons here with shit advice.
    Aug 30 5
    • Cerner / Eng Zenobia
      Thanks for commenting! I am an Indian woman too and am almost about to give up dating coz the kind of guys I am meeting. Right now I am only looking at Indian dating sites coz I always thought people mainly look for hookups on Match, OkC or Tinder. I have been coming across lot of commitment phobes or emotionally unavailable guys. Taking a break for a while from dating now, but your comment gives me some hopes for the future.
      Aug 30
    • Amazon jQpf16
      Online dating is a numbers game, but unless you are clear about what you want - you will go round and round in circles. In my opinion, Indian men make shitty husbands, so trerad super carefully there, keep a lookout for red flags and scoot at the first sight of crazy.
      Aug 30
    • Arthrex quarks
      @Amazon so true, married an Indian and divorced now. Went on date with other nationalities and they are definitely much better and truthful. @OP be open to guys who make less TC than you and you can find really good ones. What matters more is the core values and not which country they come from.
      Aug 30
    • Google focusonthe
      @cerner can you explain what you mean by commitment phobes or emotionally unavailable? What do they say to make you think that? How do you have confidence in your guess there?
      Aug 30
    • Amazon jQpf16
      @google commitment phobes - If you want to find a partner for life and you find that you are afraid to communciate this to your partner because you are afraid they will take off. Younger commitment phobes are harder to spot, the older they get the easier it is. There is a wealth of information online on how to spot a commitment phobe.
      Sep 2
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    • New / Eng ronney
      I met my gf on OkCupid. We're together for 2 years now
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft Bork13
      Meet mine on e.harmony. Had to trick the algo but it worked
      Aug 29
    • U.S. Dpt. of Veterans Affairs / Other zxcvvbnm
      @jobt. Damn what are you looking for? That’s a long time to not find anyone. You sure it’s not just you?
      Aug 29
    • New jobt777
      100% me 🤷🏻‍♀️
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      Interesting
      Aug 30
  • New kplay
    So many desperate guys in here.
    Aug 29 3
    • IBM akcnd
      Hey stop assuming. Some of us are desperate girls. Lol
      Aug 29
    • Expedia Group Big 🍆!
      @ibm sup girl?
      Aug 30
    • New kplay
      See?
      Aug 30
  • DoorDash hqt1
    Dating apps are the best bet. Make it clear that you are not into hook ups and looking for something more meaningful.

    Join some meet ups for activities you enjoy, whether it's tech meet ups, social meet ups, activity/sports based meetups.

    Good luck!
    Aug 29 1
    • Microsoft 25tens
      Fact. Don’t give up on dating apps. Not all are meant for hookups.
      Aug 29
  • Expedia Group Big 🍆!
    Look, I know you said no hookups, but sometimes these things work in reverse and hookups come first. I’m white. DM me and I can explain further.
    Aug 29 1
  • Amazon BKlR51
    How would you rate your blowjob skills?
    Aug 30 0
  • Ellie Mae fofevo
    Why only guys? You are so sexist
    Aug 30 0
  • Wayfair WNEm45
    Join a mixed sports club like badminton, ultimate frisbee, or tennis. You end up with fit guys and fit girls.
    Aug 29 0
  • Cisco 7oclock
    If you're looking for something more serious try Hinge or OKCupid or Match.com and be up front about what you're looking for.

    Not all apps are for hooking up.
    Aug 29 4
    • IBM akcnd
      But most people are on tinder in general. You have more options on tinder right?
      Aug 29
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      But the intent of tinder audience is hook up. So they are not looking for serious relationship

      Weird thing is I find same folks on tinder on other serious dating apps. So that is definitely confusing
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft coconutt
      Ive tried OkCupid and you certainly get people that want a relationship, but I didn't much like the options, everyone is so fucking awkward. I don't much about dating apps, but my experience wasn't good.
      Aug 29
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      Never tried OkCupid or eHarmony.
      Aug 29
  • Microsoft / Eng sunofa🍑
    How does one come up with such score? Especially if it's that precise.
    What variables are included in the formula?
    Aug 29 3
    • Microsoft tincans
      A 10 like you wouldn't know. 😛
      Aug 29
    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      Think of the most attractive non celebrity you know or have seen on social media and then rate yourself in comparison I guess. Idk I’ve found guys irresistible when my friends though that they were meh and vice versa. I think personality has a lot to do with my choices so I wouldn’t know
      Aug 30
    • Microsoft / Eng sunofa🍑
      Oh, ok🙂thanks for the explanation.
      Aug 30
  • OceanX / Eng CyberDog
    @OP

    How do you rate yourself on health or physical fitness level, because if you are already 30 my sincere advise is to find a man and get married and not through dating just that it would waste a lot more time and more complications....

    I suggest you just go with arranged marriage with an Indian guy, of course, your parents will happily find you one. That relationship will give you a lot of stability.

    The reason I started my post with health/physical fitness is after 30 is has become increasingly complicated for girls in this generation to bare a child (if you ever want to have kids)....
    The same has been true with us guys as well after 35, but that can easily be fixed for shortterm for having a kid through ayurveda or other medicines, but girls have to be even stronger to carry the baby for 36+weeks.

    Sorry for being very practical..... a lot of this is coming from my experience..... I am already 27 and I feel like I already wasted last 3 years by not finding a girl and marrying.

    Also, financially you will be better off getting married earlier, provided both partners work and work in high paying tech....
    Aug 30 2
    • Facebook wwvv
      Ayurveda... lol can’t tell if this person is india or white
      Aug 30
    • New kplay
      Indian mind. Thats for sure.
      Aug 30
  • Facebook el_idolo1
    Lose some weight, 130 lbs at 5'2 and I have a feeling it ain't muscle...
    Aug 31 1
    • Symantec NGge16
      Least useful suggestion. OP's "statistics" are just fine and won't negatively impact her chances of getting a quality man.
      Sep 1
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    • Microsoft charmlucky
      OP
      I don’t kiss and tell
      Aug 30