A Divorce Ruined My Life, But I Clawed My Way Back
https://www.financialsamurai.com/divorce-ruined-my-life/
Financial Samurai
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Well, he made her leave her medical career back in the UK and be a house wife after being a successful doctor. Of course she went mad. Wish he and his family had been a little less selfish and moved her back to the UK in a long distance marriage than making her pregnant. Before you guys say that it was her choice in this, people in such situations have a lot less agency than you think because of the emotional blackmail and cultural pressure. It never pays to disempower a (wo)man through a marriage. PS: none of this is justifying her vindictive behavior.
Read carefully, he did not make her leave medical career in UK to be a house wife. She started a career in US with residency in radiology and then had a debacle in her career which she could not recover from even after multiple tries. (Probably she would have been black marked in UK as well). Then they decided she could focus on family. Offcourse we have heard only one version on the story, but it does not seem like she was disempowered due to marriage, but due to her own failure in her career
@salesforce wtf? Did you read the story at all???
Guy here, divorce ruined me financially but wouldn't say ruined my life. I have successfully climbed back up the TC scale now and am just starting to reaccumulate real wealth again. It is harder to make it back after divorce, since child support and spousal support or other divorce related payments eat all your income, but it is doable. Gotta keep your hustle on! 24 months left, then down to just child support payments (which I don't mind of course, its for my kids).
I can assure you those child support payments are not going to your kids. Likely funding your ex- wife’s “girls nights out” and pampering expeditions
What can I say, I am a glass half full kind of guy.
Great article. Its a good reminder to stay single even if it gets lonely at times. Grow TC, hire call girls and other companions. Much safer than getting married!
Agreed
Couldn’t agree more.
With marriages averaging now 8 years and declining even further, marriage makes less and less sense given the steep downside from failing one and the intangible upside from a rare successful one.
The intangible upside you mention is far more tangible than you may think. Strong, loving commitments like marriage make us better, kinder, nobler, more flexible, more hopeful, and more willing to compromise and sacrifice than we would otherwise be. Marriage is an insurance policy that we will have someone who will stand by us regardless of what life throws at us. I know too many “boyfriends” and “girlfriends” who abandoned their partner when life got tough.
And with the statistics out there, it’s not as insured as you think.
A question to Dr. Successful: Why it wasn’t you to move to UK and restart your residency program? Your ex wife moved for you and readers couldn’t see any appreciation in your article.
Agree. I pointed it out above and you can see the name calling when I suggested this
Married for 9 years, most of my income went to pay for down payment, mortgage, kids. I was also the primary care taker. Now he's asking for spouse/child support, on top of half my stocks and 401k. Never getting married again, ever.
Greedy, lazy husband. So sorry to hear that, Airbnb.
Been in this same exact position. Mailed my last alimony check to my ex husband last July. Closed book. Will never marry ever again
Never say never again
Lol. Alimony has a way of making you never want to get married ever again