Dating 101 Etiquette
Alrighty, lovely Blind community - I ask, what is the proper etiquette in today's culture of dating to let the other person know if you are interested or not after the first date? And if not interested, do you just not respond back or do you lend the courtesy in letting them know either way? On a side note, I f'ing hate dating, draining. (rant over)
I always let the other person know, after the first date, if I want to see him for a second date or not. In the latter case, I always tell him that I would be happy to stay friends (unless he was an ahole ofcourse which is rare). Just basic human courtesy. Not a good idea to let someone speculate what's going on in your mind.
Thank you I thought the same and similar mindset as you. Was on a date yesterday w/this gal and just so odd that people don't have basic courtesy.
Yes, you should inform her. Never hurts to be kind.
iโve ghosted and been ghosted many times. seems to be the norm now
Yeah, I hear ya.
If things go well both of you will know itโs heading to a second date
Communication is key
It depends for guys it's quite easy to be honest but for girls it's always dicey as they might not want to have any interaction at times and being courtesy with many they might invite unnecessary trouble so one should be smart enough to read the signs
For some folks who have low emotional intelligence, anything but ghosting is an opportunity for negotiation. In some circumstances these individuals resort to immature behavior and then start making petty insults like "Well you were really too fat anyway so no big loss". Or demanding feedback about "what they can do better" only to have that feedback challenged on every point. Evenif that only happens 1 out 5 times, who wants to deal with that.
Fair enough.
In a perfect world, yes weโd openly communicate, with no repercussions. Weโd even have a post Morten to discuss how we each could improve for the future. But that isnโt happening. Yes it would be nice if you โgot closureโ, people were polite, or showed courtesy. But I prefer to believe that no one owes you anything. Donโt owe you a reason or a response. It should be pretty clear if there will be a second date. Move on.
Omg date his co worker and move on. Let it be a death match.
Insist to split the bill on the first date if you absolutely have no interest. If they message you, say you want to be friends. If you are actually interested, say something along the line of it was nice hanging out letโs do it again sometimes in the future.
I just say that the Hiring Committee didnโt think that it was a good fit.
If somebody took the trouble of letting me know, that person would earn my respect. My 2 cents.