I am 25. I think I look decent and in general would consider myself to be a polite and nice person. I have a lot of female friends. But, I have a hard time asking women for dates. I feel so lonely sometimes. Is there anyone who also lives in New York City and would like to hang out with me on Saturday and grab food together? Courtesy TC: 200k
“grab food together”
I also thought that euphemism was strange
Means you pay for your food and I pay for mine, which is absolutely fair. Especially for the one who mentions TC in their relationship post.
Nice guy
When my friend wanted to learn how to drop in on a skateboard, his dad told him the only way to learn is to just do it. He broke both his wrists. But once out of the hospital homie didn't break his wrists the next time and became a really good skater. My point is, just ask them out. You might break your wrists the first time, but you'll know what not to do the next. You got this champ.
Bruh if you're breaking your wrists tryna talk to women you're doing something wrong 😳
It’s not the talking. It’s what you did with the hands after the rejection. ... Praying! I meant praying.
It all gets easier with time and experience. Ask one of your female friends whom you like and have chatted with a fair amount if she'd like to get lunch next Monday, or whichever specific and decisive day and activity you'd prefer. You're more likely to get a date by asking out a girl who is already your friend. Just like on a dating app, it's best to have a bit of conversation to break the ice before asking her out. If she says yes and you meet her for whatever date activity, give her a hug when you arrive for the date. She'll probably be smiling at you anyway, when she sees you. Then when you're leaving, hug her again. Kissing and everything else follows from that, if she seems to enjoy it. You have to initiate it, because girls generally don't at first. In the meantime, practice with dating apps if you don't want to ask out your friends. Ask each match out to a specific time, public place and activity after 3-5 send-receive exchanges. Message first with a novel compliment that she ideally hasn't seen before, or by identifying an area of commonality on your respective dating profiles.
Tinder
Girls like bad guys Don’t be cute always Show attitude sometimes
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Stop having female friends and start fucking them. TC : 500k
How'd you reach that TC at Bloomberg?
This person speaks the truth! You have a lot of female friends because you're acting like a beta. Women in your age bracket don't want betas. TC 501K
Everyone is different, so YMMV with all the advice here. I'd recommend you go for drinks instead of an intimate dining experience. Bring your date to one of the many great speakeasys here in NYC. Garfunkel's is a solid one.
When I was in New York I recall that women didn’t like planned dates, but women did like being included in spontaneous things that could turn into having sex at my place. So stop the formalities and do things. I remember similar frustration at 25 in NYC where women felt the idea of doing something “was too serious” or “meant too much” for their tastes. Consistent sex and prioritization was my goal then, eventually got tired of that and got in a relationship, but it is very possible to have a nice harem or have whats effectively a date without creating the idea of it as being a date
What do you mean by spontaneous things over here
“I’m going to [do this totally benign place/activity, right now, that is actually specifically curated to pique your interest], you should come!” ie. Get a matcha latte just because healthy vegan women would find it interesting that youre interested I’ve done this to random “busy” women in union square that had headphones in and an illusion of agency. The gatekeeping is for unattractive people exclusively, you’ll figure out where you are on the totem pole, ideally before the indictment. Additionally, if you have a crew, creating social circumstances to be in where you can pull people later. Like dinner parties at restaurants.
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