I have a 9 year old. On H1b, wife on H4 visa with H4 EAD. I have too many conflicts with my wife and want to divorce her. She is fine with it too, but there are two problems. 1) We both cannot imagine life without the kid. I am ok with some kind of an arrangement where we share the times we live with the kid. 2) She is on H4. Dependent on my status. Is there any solution to this mess ? I know of one solution, she starts studying on F1, her dependent status is gone, and then we can be together here in the US with the kid. Any other solutions ? My wife refuses to meet a lawyer. I want to meet a collaborative lawyer who can think in the best interests of the kid. Also looking to hear other similar experiences
If not Indian, get green card ASAP
Indian , will not get it in a decade
Can u live separately and then when she finds a job divorce ? U will owe her a lot of alimony if she doesnt have a job
Where does the kid stay ? Living with one parent might amount to abandonment
How abt both of u rent in same building if u r renting, separate flats
Can you stay in same house as sort of flatmates ?
In same or nearby apartment buildings, Yes. Of course not in the same house. Will not work
Wise. Another solution is to maintain the same house , and each you get a small rental nearby. You take turns being at home with the child, and each of you can still have your own lives
Did you work with a marriage counselor before you made this decision?
No, but it’s been many years and we are at a point of no return
I feel you should try it once compatibility issues change over time If you have respect for each other you should try counseling
One naive question from a person who has contemplated this a lot(even before getting married), why get a divorce and make it official ? Only upside I see is a chance to get remarried. But having burnt once, would you do that all over again ? (This is in context of a non-western culture/society.)
I would never remarry again. Why do it ? Because at a stage it gets too stressful staying together
Can fuck other women. Op is probably not getting any sex from his wife
What’s your TC? Wife’s?
250K, wife’s is a much smaller fraction of it
This might sound like a crazy idea but have you tried, I don’t know, fixing it??
You poor soul... When reality hits you with a bag of bricks, I hope you can take it with this same attitude.
I would, for the sake of my son’s happiness, I would
You sound hypocrite that you love your kid and can’t love your wife.
😂 are you married with a kid?
Sorry, not hypocrite, but a super oxymoron
This is something you discuss with a lawyer, not on Blind.
Looking for other experiences