Hard to find a bf in an environment lack of young people?
Hey blinders, I don’t want to appear whining but, it appears to me that I’m in a working environment that lacks young & single people (no parties, even for the new year, no happy hours, not much fun events), it seems everyone has a family or not single. I went through a break up recently in another city, and moved in Seattle area recently as well. However, I find lots of people in here is unavailable, and even when I attend some events where they are young people, it’s really hard for me to make friends or talk with them, as they usually have friends with them as well. I understand I am not the most outgoing person, that will say hi joyfully to everyone or smile at them, I need to improve on that. For me I consider myself not short (~5’6”), not old (<25) and skinny, and I don’t really think I am unattractive as well (well my eyes are big..... although it’s all relevant and everyone thinks differently), but I’m pretty sure I’m not a troll ... Now I am a little worried about my future in here, that if I will stay like this forever.. ? Or I should be patient and know more people and improve my people skill as well? Also should I change my team that has younger people? Thanks in advance :) !
Everyone wants to be friends with girls. Meetups and dating apps should work quickly. If not, you have unreasonable standards.
Maybe true, trying on a dating app that starts with a t .. as well, not sure if that’s the right one. Any suggestions? :)
Tinder is for casual sex, not finding a boyfriend. Go for Bumble or Coffee Meets Bagel unless you just want to get laid.
Would enjoy meeting and conversation over coffee but I’m not in the Seattle area :/ keep a good head and strong, open heart. You never know where or when you’ll meet someone. Best wishes! Merry Christmas :)
Thanks and merry Christmas to you too :) !!
Try meetup or join a running group. Lots of single people there.
Translation: I find that lots of people who are super modelesque levels of attractive unavailable most of the time. I’m not interested in anyone else. Sorry, in a city like Seattle, I find it hard to believe men are not willing to talk to you unless you have ridiculously high standards.
No I’m not saying that.. so it means that I should take the initiate to talk more to men, if that is correct ?
Yes. I suggest you initiate conversation. If you’re a minority or come from a different culture, it is harder I will admit, especially if you’re new to the country. If not, it should be easier, but either way, you have to take initiative.
Try coffee meets bagel
Here is how it goes. Usually single people have more time on hands, they will join clubs or weekly activities. For example, there is board game type of events every week at Microsoft and amazon (if you are Chinese you will fit right in) because they play Chinese games. There is the GO club in Microsoft where they just meet up and learn or play go on weekly basis. Then there is the runners, bikers, etc..etc... If you join those events you will eventually meet friends. On a side note. I got 2 single ladies in the early twenties next to my office. I noticed the whole freaking floor of single guys tried to talk to them and they now have a constant 5 guys surrounding them every day to go to lunch or something. So I am pretty sure if you are attractive like you stated, some guy is gonna chat you up at some point. And yeah, you might have unreasonable high standard.
Maybe work on your English grammar?
Yeah thanks. My English is really badly. Sorry...
Shouldn't be an issue. Most people struggle with grammar, even folks who have grown up in the US.
Try Amazon, I hear there are more younger folks there. Located in downtown Seattle, I think they are more likely to hang out afterwards.
Best way to meet people who might be interested in hanging out/dating is by joining classes in subject matters that interests you. It could be anything, dancing, kickboxing, glassworking. Apps are okay for hook-ups, but they consume a lot of time and effort by design. Seattle can be a hard place for a new transplant but if you go out and do activities you'll definitely find someone you're interested in.
Thanks for the advise :) I’ll try my best
Let's meet up
Wait for the “but not you, you’re random, I’m looking for a specific 1 in a million kind of guy” excuse
Lol... Is this serious..??