I moved to SF a few months ago and been using dating apps for a little over a month (all of them !) and all I find are guys who “are looking for something casual” 🤦♀️ What does that even mean? That’s like saying “I intentionally want to be with someone I have no future with”. Anyways, is that everyone’s experience on dating apps ?
I am married and have friends looking to date. Yes, guys are just looking for some hanky panky.
Try shaadi.com. Works wonders for finding long term commitments.
What is this shaadi.com. Why everyone is from India ?
Shaadi is hindi for marriage. Its an Indian matrimony site
Yeah sf has more players than South Bay. I think I went out only on 1 date a long time ago for that. This guy met up and he’s director of finance at a startup. He was looking at his phone the entire time, just to proceed onto telling me he has emails from work. It makes me why he even wasted my time in the first place. Then after I got home I got a message saying he has a nice time and wants to see me again. I said thank you, sure, me too and blocked him. Haha 😆 he deserved it.
Don’t worry just keep going out on dates. You will meet the right person. It’s all a numbers game and please don’t get discouraged. There are a lot of amazing guys out there too.
Did you find one online ?
Yes I met all my boyfriends and fiancé online. You need to do work to filter them out though. I probably met like 100+ guys and had 5 long term relationships. I made sure I only slept w them once we figure out we should be exclusive. I looked at dating like a homework assignment, forced myself to go on dates even if I wasn’t feeling it. Some feelings developed over time, some did not. Only time will tell.
OMG, did you grow up in USA? You should know what casual means.. no need to come here to ask
How funny. I looked in SF for relationships online for years. Maybe you’re only going for the super good looking young white guys? Trying reading the profiles more and looking at the pics less.
99/100 times when a girl has a problem with ghosting on dating apps, it's a user error. Goes for attractive dude with many options -> is surprised when ghosted. lol
Guys are say that. Something casual means they are looking for sex (like always, no surprise) and not looking for a relationship. It is a way to not commit, before knowing a person, but not necessarily a hard no on a relationship . It takes pressure off both sides, like if the guy says he wants to marry you after a first date, you might be scared and block them. If you read the blind posts, there are so many guys who are looking for a relationship and find too many men compared to women. If you find a profile you want to reach out to, you can try to reply - that you are only looking to date and meet someone first, then see if there is a connection, see what the response is.
I ended up marrying the woman who I initially just wanted to nightstand (via tinder). So you never know what happens! Btw I am so happy with her.
RIP inbox, OP.
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Women I dated here do the same thing. Too many options are available and people don't know for how long they're gonna stay here, so they don't settle down. I still met great people online though.
Where is here for you?
SF