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I am 38, financially stable, have a beautiful wife and a lovely kid. All my life, I have been chasing: chasing degrees, chasing universities, chasing job, title, income, home, net worth. I want to stop chasing. All my mental health issues are around this desire to “chase” and I want to stop it. I want to be more content with what I have. How did you all achieve it? I have seen a psychiatrist in the US and honestly he was quite disappointing. He gave some generic meta advice. To those who were able to find happiness and peace with what you have, how did you find it? Customary TC: $100k. Doing my own startup.
Start a gratitude journal. When you have gratitude for the blessings in your life that really matter, the need to chase subsides. You keep reminding your mind about your priorities (eg. Health and happiness of family and loved ones) and everything else seems less important.
Leave all the stress enjoy with your family. Plan for monthly returns by investing some of your wealth.
Understand yourself better through perhaps a better shrink or other means (I'm a big believer in psychology for example and have gained loads through MBTI). Try Vipassana, a Buddhist meditation practise focusing on the temporary aspect of existence which I recently did. Write, as others have commented, though in my personal experience you're limited in what you get out of it by what you already know. Its all very unique to every individual though - maybe you ARE born to chase but feel burnt out only temporarily. That's where self-understanding comes in. The other usual recommendations apply - keep family and friends close, continue pursuing interests close to your heart and give something back to society. All this will no doubt divert time away from the chase as long as you commit to it
I had a close friend who was like you, almost the same age, background etc, once he was diagnosed with a severe disease and almost died from that, now he stopped chasing and just enjoying his moment. It's quite dramatic, I wish you don't have to go through this, but sometimes you just have to look back and realize it's just how beautiful your life is.