I think I spent the last 6-7 hours on my phone … scrolling through IG, YouTube, TikTok, web streaming (not OF but something similar), and will be all depressed at work tomorrow and not feel fulfilled. I tried to push myself to work out but it’s easy to give up on it. I haven’t been able to do anything that is actually good for my physical health or mental health. I know I have to change, but I keep falling back to my old self and unhealthy habits, and feel a lot of self hatred. I have a lot of family issues to deal with, so it is very overwhelming and I feel like I’m unsuccessfully looking for something to distract myself. With wfh + being isolated taking care of an aging parent in the suburbs in the city that I don’t know anyone in for nearly 3 years, I’m starting to lose sanity and growing resentments. TC 230k
Have an accountability partner
Try to take a vacation and travel, staycation even. Get a nice local hotel in the city center and just enjoy the weekend by yourself, and go to bars around. I didn’t listen to my mental health deteriorating, burnt out bad and got laid off / fired. I took a few days off, just hanging with friends and catching up with family, and started applying with a clearer mind. Refreshed my resume and now I’m getting interview requests. Remaining hopeful. Rest is important op and you deserve one. Also try changing environments, I’m actually one of those bootlickers who’s gonna be hybrid because I discovered I don’t bode well in home only. Go to libraries around you, local cafe, workspaces, anything not home.
Set timers on app if you have iPhone.
1) Believe in Jesus Christ. “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 2) go to gym and lift. adherence (consistency) is key. It’ll give you energy despite first putting in energy. You’ll naturally want to eat healthier and enough protein. You’ll sleep better and will naturally prioritize your sleep since your body will urge you to. Just like that, two decisions, and you already drastically improved your physical health (sleep, diet, exercise), mental and emotional health (from healthy choices and resting in Jesus), and finally most importantly your spiritual health (“Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 14:6) You got this brother. When people and your own self fail you, the Lord and His Word never disappoints. “Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’” Isaiah 41:10
Men will ask strangers on blind instead of going to therapy
I used to face the same issue a few months ago, struggling to focus on work while constantly getting distracted by social media during long meetings. It would be evening before I knew it, leaving me with pending work and a sense of guilt. Each day, I promised to improve, but I found myself staying up late, engrossed in Netflix and social media. Thankfully, I found two helpful apps to reduce my social media usage: 1. “One sec”: This app prevents you from opening blacklisted apps for 6 seconds (configurable in settings), curbing impulsive switching. 2. “Opal”: An app timer that grants a maximum of 15-minute breaks for blacklisted apps. To access them, I must request approval from Opal, waiting 15 to 70 seconds for it. Leaving the app resets the timer, making it effective in deterring me from opening them. Even if these apps didn’t completely stop me from using, say, Instagram, they limited my usage to 15 minutes before starting another loop of permissions and waiting time.
This may sounds silly, but the next time you find yourself in a doom loop you wanna get out of, count down from 5 (ideally actually say it out loud). By 1, completely stop what you’re doing and start doing what you really want. Again this may sound silly, but it really does work; it’s helped me a lot with my procrastination lol
you have to find what works best for u. for me certain herbal teas and medicine helped my brain. then stretching my hips. literally that, since I sit all day. now i never doom loop and quit my bad habits (nicotine)
The first step is understanding these apps are designed to promote tantalizing content and the only way to break away from it is to exit the app.
For a moment I thought, when did I write this post!
Thanks for validating, at least a little relieved I’m not the only person feeling this way