How to handle wife who hates my mom
My wife hates my mom - she uses abusive language and even makes statements that I sleep with my mom when she is angry. I always feel like bursting into anger but control myself - but it kills me from inside. How to cope with this? It’s taking a toll on me. No trolls please.
Big oof
Does she have a job ?
Are you newly married? Why does she hate your mom? Try talking to her and see if you can understand what's on her mind. You don't randomly hate somebody, there has to be more to it.
Very complex issue. Coming from Very different socio-economic backgrounds. Lot of resentment and anger.
Sorry that you have to go through this man. Reading through the other comments in the thread, it doesn't seem like this thing can be mended. I almost never recommend this but you should seriously consider divorce. Record her secretly the next time she hits you and use that in court. I can't imagine how hard it is to listen bad things about your own mother. She's not only dead weight in your relationship but is also making your life miserable. Don't worry about what the society would say if you separate, do what you feel is right.
She should seek help really fast.
Ask your mom try not to demand chores like cooking and cleaning. Help your wife in physical chores. Tell them stop arguing on money. Situation could be manageable after this rules.
You end up how you start, your wife is doing this because she can get away with it and because you allowed her to. It's probably too late for you to tell her to reel it in
You said your wife hates your mom. But do you know if the reason is justifiable?? Her using inappropriate language is not right. Hence ur wife needs to go to anger MGMT classes. However if her anger is justifiable, you need to intervene and help so that she don't reach the high red mark.
I can’t imagine how physically violent she can get if I ask her to go to anger mgmt classes
She needs therapy
Won’t agree to it. Tried in the past. She said I need one.
Then maybe you need the therapy? Seriously though, would couples therapy be an option?