^title. This one is bad and needs counseling / affected mental health. How do I tell my manager? Do I just stay quiet and take a few days? Have a ton of pto saved. I am in a high leadership / people management role. Edit: not high leadership, I should have said just leadership exposure, and mid tier company. tc ~120k. Update on situation: Thanks all for the feedback. I did tell; they are very understanding with me being their very first direct report. If anything, this just helps if i need to take unexpected time. Update on the low tc: I cracked many t1 interviews, which ended with the hiring freeze. I am a top performer at my level at this company (I can't compare how I'd perform at t1). I ended up filling in some very large initiative gaps, which is where I was pushed to greater visibility and brought into high-level discussions with leadership. Planning to use this time to refine my skills, deliver high visibility achievements, and go for t1 companies again soon. -nyc
The OP is in a high leadership and people management role and asks this question on Blind. This post is a perfect example of what's wrong with corporate America.
Updated description, I may have sold myself too much compared to the average blinder. I can maybe crack l4 at google .
Phewf… corporate America is okay then
If it's interfering with your work I say tell your manager
Would you prefer if one of your direct (or indirect) reports gives you a heads up about a major personal event that might affect his work ? How much detail would you like to know without getting too much personal info ?
Thanks, this does help. I had a report in a previous job who once told me about a different personal event, in which it did help so I can ease up their workload. I also changed processes with them to get updates async instead of meetings / standups. It's a good thing you asked me this because even performance wise, I changed my expectations of capacity and responsibilities with them and assessed them based on those instead of with the standard team expectations, which favored them greatly.
If you really did this, you're a nice person and an exception OP. Most managers would treat them as a liability, more so in the current economy. Given that, I'd keep it to myself.
Guarantee your manager doesn’t care about your personal life and it’s also none of their business. Take time off and talk to a therapist.
Interesting. I am a manager and while no report is obligated to tell me anything personal, I certainly hope they feel free to and know that I care deeply about their personal well-being.
^ and how many people have you put on PIP?
Don’t. I knew a guy who did and was passed for promotion
This is a valid factor. Being a top performer currently, I did bring this point up. Thanks for the comment.
Why divorce? What led to it?
Is that necessary for your answer?
LinkedIn- Is your question necessary ?
Depends. Are you a girl or a guy?
Yes. So he or she feels sorry for u and let u take extra time off.
No need
If you are in the states, chat with your therapist around taking some protected leave. My friend did a 12 week leave in a high ppl management role at a FAANG company during/post divorce. Take care of yourself.