I’ve been dating a guy for the last 4 months and recently learned he is making $40k in the army. I make close to $160k. I wad shocked and worried when he told me. I didn’t tell him because i was caught off guard. I don’t want to be shallow but I’m afraid this may not work out because our lifestyle is different. He is a great guy, good character, personality, smart and caring. Do you think it’s worth perusing? How likely will financials get in the way? Any other advice is greatly appreciated.
I make 4x more than you, by your logic how that make you feel. I guess answer that first. But honestly how do you not know that we’re in a tech bubble and if someone’s in the army they don’t make tech wages. I’m sorry but you might have bigger issues than shallowness lol
What!?
I think you’re trolling ...no one could be this dense. Or maybe you really do work at google
If you have to ask this question, don’t bother with him.
I didn’t want to be mean either but this girl is an idiot :/
You’re an idiot. If you dont have anything positive or constructive to contribute, leave the post!!!
Not sure about perusing but pursuing him is wise of your heart is speaking more than your mind. He could leave the army as one of the best of the best, in demand from all sorts of employers. Certainly others have before. Making 40k in the army is a gift when you consider what student loans do to people outside of the military. Net: don’t be short-sighted.
Interesting perspective
Would it help if he made 69k ?
Why so specific?
Lol
Is 40k his salary? Military get housing allowances, etc that aren’t taxed and don’t count as salary. It’s actually a really good gig if you stay in for 25 years and get retirement. I think you are being very shallow and have no idea what life is like for 99% of Americans if a military career isn’t good enough for you.
The $40k is including his housing allowance.
Is he ambitious enough to make a career of it? My buddy was making $85k all in after 8 years, and well over 100k the year he deployed. I forgot his rank but it is a special forces type job. He will be able to retire at 43, and get a 2nd job on top of retirement if he chooses.
Coffee ?
Haha
If you are a money chaser please leave him so he can find someone looking for more. FWIW I am in this exact ratio and we've been married 30 yrs. It's all in what matters to you most. I put other values before money. Doesn't work for everyone.
The real question is is he ambitious enough for you. Is he an officer? Does he want to get out and go to grad school? Lots of top grad schools love ex-military
Don't underestimate Military guys. Military guys are bad ass and have great life experiences which you cannot account in terms of 💰. Just to give u an example- ur bf can probably take down 5 guys within a blink of an eye.
Experiences mean nothing without $$$ bro. If no RSU, no crypto, low TC, then it ain't worth living.
Low TC and no RSU! 😱Omg how do 7 billion people on the planet do it??
Depends on your financial goals. If being financially well off and living a higher end life style is important, then it may not work out in the long run. Can he earn more than that after the army? Or even worse, he could be unemployed after the army. What's his age and your age? Do you want kids?
We are both 30 and neither of us have kids yet
You can’t be well off as a family bringing in $200k a year?