He’s happily engaged now
Tech Industry
4h
658
Women, help me understand why this is inspirational
Working Parents
15h
1143
Closed now - thank you all
Tech Industry
Yesterday
2920
Quitting this Slave life
India
Yesterday
1061
Modi is a legend, will be remembered for centuries to come
Working Parents
Yesterday
1009
What do you think is wrong with a kid who got rejected by 9 colleges?
Sounds like you need to just go bang a bunch of dudes. When you fall off one, just get on another.
Why didn’t you marry him?
Just wasn’t ready back then. And I didn’t like his smoking habit. Also he dumped me as soon as he was set in an arranged marriage with someone
metoo :(
My ex dumped me 4 years ago In public on feb 21 2015, 6:34pm.. till date I never really dated anyone else and I still wait for her because she is my true love and someone I want to marry and have kids with.. but hey remember she dumped me and moved on so every time I miss her I remember the worst times and how she treated me and do something to make myself busy.. Yesterday I googled this— how to Move forward in life with a broken heart. You should google it too and that could possibly help you move on..
Rent free. Stop ruining your life because of a girl. She’s probably fucked multiple men by now and hasn’t given you a single thought. Your happiness doesn’t rely upon her. You just think it does.
I’m sorry to hear that man. That is honestly true love. To still love her after she broke up with you two years ago and had sex with other guys. I could never love a girl like that. But you do so it’s true love. But love can be manufactured. Go find another girl and you will find another true love. The reason why you haven’t found it yet is because as you said , you haven’t really dated. Go out and date and you’ll find true love.
Marriage isn’t something you have to do in your life
Were you in a long distance relationship? He got another new girl to keep himself busy. Why don’t u do the same?
I’ve been with my man 10 years and still not sure if I want to marry him
Do u guys still have sex?
That’s a tough one. At this point you will never feel like he’s the one. He will always be a “maybe” to you. But perhaps that’s ok. I mean obviously you’ve been with him for ten years so clearly it’s not that bad and you probably enjoy your time with him. The only issue is what happens when better looking, higher status, more charming guys come your way? See if your man was “the one” you wouldn’t let that affect you. But since she’s a “maybe”, you might be resentful of yourself for “settling” when you could have got the man of your dreams
Don't cry over someone who's moved on! Or rather yeah you can get sad but please don't dwell on it. I really really liked and admired 2 of my exes and sometimes I still miss the most recent ex but I realized if they admired me the same way the relationships wouldn't have ended. I cried so many hours and days over these two people. Probably could have filled a whole bathtub with the tears. But now I realize I'm over it and I'm ready to find someone I don't have to cry about. The one ex I dated for 5 years, my first serious bf, and loved for a long time left me for my “friend”. She played home wrecker while our relationship was rocky. They just got engaged. It took 3 years for me get over the betrayal. He moved to Bay Area to work at Apple and I couldn’t go there because I was afraid to run into him and his gf so I moved to Seattle. Recently I had an onsite interview in the Bay Area and reached out to him after 3 years of no contact because I finally forgave him and just missed him as a friend. I asked him to meet up for coffee and just to catch up and he told me if he did he would have to bring his fiancé because I’m an ex...the fiancé is the b*** “friend” who betrayed me and stole my ex from me and blocked me on fb without saying a word, never apologized...why would I want to see her? The ex I forgave because our relationship wasn’t working out at the time so I knew he had to move on to someone else. He did feel sorry and apologized for ending it badly and leaving me for my “friend”. If he had dated some random girl he met off tinder I think we would still be friends today. But anyway, my ex saying he didn’t even want to see me without the vile woman who betrayed me present was a final slap in the face and I woke up and finally realized he wasn’t worth my time after all these years...I thought about this guy for 3 years after the break up but after he suggested he bring his fiancé to have coffee with me, I no longer think about this guy anymore, hardly at all! He’s seriously a joke now. I realized guys like that are just not worth my mental energy anymore. I'm much happier now that I'm single and can focus on myself and don't have to worry about whether a guy loves me or not. I love and appreciate myself now. When you find the right guy he won't ever make you feel regret or doubt or whatever. You probably broke up because something wasn't working. That is enough reason to let go and move on. Just look at me couldn’t move on from how “wonderful” the person was for 3 years only to be rejected all over again. Wasn’t even trying to date the dude anymore but was still rejected for just trying to reconnect as friends. Go out there, make you and your life awesome and find someone who's not so taxing on your emotions and who actually wants to.stick by your side.
While I understand where you are coming from, I see where your ex is coming from. My wife and I have an agreement that we will not meet with exes without the other present (we both have had bad experiences with SOs cheating with an ex). It may not have been anything to do with you and everything with your ex respecting his new relationship and honouring his partner's wishes. If you can forgive him maybe you can one day forgive her? Especially if as you say, you miss him as a friend. Until they break up, they are unfortunately a package deal.
Oracle, cheers to your strength. Facebook, context matters. It's hard to befriend someone who literally took your place. If the ex cared he'd see her in a public place like coffee shop.
OP, same thing happened to me. Feb 14, 2013. I remember it like it was yesterday. The crying, everything. I didn't even think I would survive it. In fact when I saw him with his wife (the woman his parents chose) 3 years later, I was so distraught that I had to take few days off work. This was when I was dating someone else. I'm fine now. You'll also be fine. What helped me was developing those parts of my personality which didn't grow in the relationship. The only way to get out of this is to grow into a new person. You have to figure out the direction to grow in, and only then you'll grow out of this grief. Ping me if you need to talk. Been through this and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. In a lot of ways it's similar to you, because few of my close family and friends still think that he was the best guy who offered me marriage till date, compared to all the people I dated after. But we have all moved on from that and reconciled to it. I've grown in other directions so perspective changed. If you love him, and are spiritual, pray that he has the best life possible with whomever he's with now. We don't own anyone. We only get to feel happy for the times we spend together in this lifetime.
Been through a similar experience. And what's surprising is that I knew the exact date when he was getting married. I was at work that day and I couldn't concentrate. I was constantly thinking about what he would be doing at that time. I also wondered how I could have been that woman if not for certain things/times/decisions. What's surprising is that I was waiting for his pics to be uploaded on FB. I somehow wanted to watch his lady, smile, wish them both good luck, drop a tear, watch him dressed up and smiling, and wonder how lucky the new woman is. It would give me closure, it would be a final close of my chapter with him. What @lozere said is correct. There are things you think you cannot survive but you do. You grow out of them with time. What remains are good memories of a beautiful relationship we shared. Accepting that it's a wrap, smiling for that bucketload of memories, and wishing him luck is probably the best you can do OP.
I feel you. I took the day off, went to the temple and prayed for him. Also, you'll grow in ways which you cannot imagine. Nothing is bad, in retrospect. I'm 100x stronger and more independent now.
I know it sucks .. but Find some one else and u will forget him in no time
If only that were true