I am an Indian guy in an arranged marriage. My wife has no ambitions to work, grow in career, make money. She always keeps blaming me for not being rich and not meeting her expectations of luxury and because of this I am asking her to work. I spent 3 years trying to build her skills but she never studied enough. She wants us to go back to India where everything is done by servants or others. She blames me for not having the social circle she wants and instead blames me for it. She keeps blaming me for not being in a great high paying job, but all the nagging at home puts me in no state of mind to study. Anybody in similar situation and how you handled this? If you visited a marriage counselor, how would this help?
If she starts reading Blind TC’s then you are totally screwed .
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She can't since she doesn't work
Is she...you know...good in the sack
As a non-indian, this arranged marriage stuff is so mind blowing... why do you guys even agree to this? Don't you want to marry someone you actually know and love? You are supposed to spend decades with them, wtf.
Married because of social pressure. I regret it now.
Do your parents disown you if you reject an arranged marriage?
Divorce dude, she's a parasitic leech, better late than never
Op is seeking advice, it's better to provide a voice of reason than to dehumanize his wife.
Discuss on this with her parents. If thinks doesn't workout take a wise decision.
her mom is here. I tried to talk to her yesterday when my wife was out. but she spewed the same nonsense.
The opinion is coming from her parents
Give her the divorce sex
What?
People should respect if it’s his culture that arrange marriage is acceptable. My take is next time she threatens to go back to India, tell her if that’s what you want, then go. I want you to be happy. And if you feel there is someone else who can provide you with what you want, then go find that person. Ive done all that I can to make you happy. I may not have the fanciest house or a lot of money but what I can bring is happiness to you. You did what you can by providing her with what you have financially and emotionally.
This guy gets it. Great answer. This +1000
Thanks for your advice! most helpful advice so far.
I have explained this all. Tried everything. I post here out of hopelessness and desperation.
I dont know why, but a dominating male always saves the family evrywhere 🐒
I agree
Bro, I agree. Some male are dominating right from the beginning so the expectations are set. It gets hard if you start off soft and want to change later.
Divorce the shit out of her. She is not wife material. Find a person who pushes you forward to achieve your goals rather than pulling you back in life.
This! Especially when there are no kids yet. GTFO before it's too late
Uh, the first external step to resolve a discord should hardly be divorce. Counseling to understand responsibilities & realities of married life would be more like it. If all fails, then divorce by all means.