Sorry for the click-baity title, but I really need advice. My manager has been an engineer for two years, and I can see she's a good engineer. Not really management material, but she talks a lot, knows everyone, and very opinionated, even with more experienced people with data opposing her opinion in the room. Our team grew suddenly and she got promoted to manager a week before I joined. I'm seeing all the signs of an inexperienced manager: wanting to control everything, making all the decisions and conversations in the void and coming back to us with a plan from "upstairs", assuming everyone has less context, shoehorning people into very specific positions, micromanagement, and continuous interruptions. I see a lot of problems when the culture, tracking work, prioritization, communication with other teams, and how we work with our designers and pms. I have 5 years of experience at 3 different places, and I can see a lot of things I can improve. But she wouldn't allow me. She just wants to be doing everything. Here's an example of something that frustrates me when talking to her: I wasn't happy with the scope of my siloed primitive work and I came to her with suggestions of bigger problems on our team I can tackle so that I can support more people's work and increase productivity and such. Her response was "no" to all my ideas. And her counter offer was "why don't you keep doing your current work, but refactor it and use some design patterns?"
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Change team or company . To have a piece of peace
This. It’s time to go!
Yep, just move. Save yourself the aggravation.
My manager is an arrogant 55 yo boy
Sounds like you’re jelly of his grey hairs
Is she a college dropout? How is she 22 with two years of experience?
Got it on with her manager. I’ve seen it a few times. Sadly that means she’s totally bullet proof. OP leave as fast as you can.
This is so wrong yet so right.
Doesn’t sound like that, actually. Please quit spamming this everywhere.
I am beginning to think we have automated posters on this platform.
Story doesnt make sense
Just change your job, once someone is a manger at a company it is not likely that they'll be taken out of their role. Nothing is going to change overnight which sounds like what you want.
Change job. They must be fucking kidding you making you report to a 22yo unless she started the company or she achieved something crazy good or you’re 20 yo intern
You either have to learn how to “manage up”.....or leave. If you decide to stay there’s no use bumping heads with her; instead try to build some trust and a partnership. Avoid coming off like a know-it-all just because your older or have more years in the game (know it in your head but avoid projecting). She might cutting you out because she doesn’t want you stepping on her toes. So don’t. Let her be George W Bush and you be Cheney behind the scenes running things and making her thing it was all her idea. 😂
I don't really bump heads with her. I'm actually a very agreeable person. That's why I'm asking for different perspectives before I start "bumping heads".
I was in a similar place and this is good advice OP. It sounds like you're pretty frustrated though, and that can be a difficult place to "manage up" from. It's easy to become resentful. The other option is to switch teams. Yelp is pretty good about this. How do you feel about telling something like this to your skip-level?
Which company?