After +4 year relationship, moved to Bay Area roughly a year ago from Canada and decided to try dating apps (tinder, CMB, OkCupid, etc). I’ve been noticing the emotional maturity of vast majority of these women (range 25-50) has been abysmal. It’s been turning me off. For context: I get comments from many of these women about “Peter pan syndrome” and also “I don’t date asian men” quite repeatedly. While I am a white male, I do find these comments either incredibly ironic (some are Social justicey) or just very tasteless. 🤷♂️I get it, people have preferences but I feel it’s kinda odd they mention after we start hooking up. My question is: is this expected when meeting people IRL here in SF after meeting online? I’m generally new to online dating given my previous serious relationship so I don’t have much to compare.
LC harder to get all the ladies
Cant force them into dating, this is not 15th century. And while we're at it, blaming women is not a great approach. They dont owe you anything
No one is forcing anyone to date. In the contrary, these women have been lying or misleading me in order to be more “serious” with them. Hence my observation of them being emotionally immature. They don’t own me anything except mutual respect if they ask for honesty/openness, I give it to them, and they don’t return the favor
They discovered that they are not bound by any rules and do not have to pay respect to anybody. Your original message clearly supports my statement. I totally agree with you, people should not turn into animals and are expected to follow basic etiquette, but here we are and many people dont give a fuck.
Dating apps are a tough pill to swallow no matter what city you’re in. I’ve seen it all: tasteless comments, flakes... The only way to survive is to keep a positive or neutral outlook. It’s easy to make sweeping generalizations like “all men suck”. But it’s usually the actions of only a subset. The problem with dating apps is that there aren’t enough meaningful filters beyond the superficial like height and age. That’s why you meet a lot of incompatible/shit people.
Thank you for this!!
And on top of this, the whole 80-20 rule of attractiveness.
Just go to a bar
You could always get a shirt made of pure gold like my brotha here and use it in your Tinder profile pic. Subtlety!
That's hot
I might have just proved OPs suspicions about the general emotional immaturity of people in SFBA!
Range is 25-50. WTF.
OP: What's your age?
What were you expecting? If the person has a quality personality IRL, then they don’t need to use a dating app.
When you have a large pool of people, you will get all types of personalities. Filter and discard work magic
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