This question is primarily for Indian women here who are married and whose husbands send money to support their aging parents. Also would ljke to head from married men who send money back to India to their parents. Do you usually think it’s unfair for husbands to send money back to parents - do you have a limit you think is the max? I take home around$8400 per month- my wife has been going ballistic on me for sending $200 every month. She tells me that $200 per month is too lavish and that my mom is overspending for a lavish lifestyle. Am I being unfair here? It’s a lot of emotional strain that I am taking. I would like some help understanding how others approach this.
Would she sing the same song if you were helping HER parents ? Sounds like your wife is a selfish b**ch - excuse my language. What I did is I bought an apartment which my parents are renting out and take the money - no need to send every month.
Your wife sounds like a can't
Divorce her. Out of 8400$ of your own money you are free to send how much ever you deem fair for your parents. She has no role to play in it. Unless of course if you are sending HER money to YOUR parents in which case she has the right to object
I am sending my money. She made all bank accounts common though.
lol here’s a suggestion op direct deposit can be changed to siphon a certain amount to some other bank account that you can open without her knowledge, little by little siphon 30 a paycheck then 50 then 70 etc so the change is not noticeable into the special bank account from where you will transfer to your parents, if she has access to your employer s paycheck management website then you have much bigger issues
I think it's pretty reasonable unless you have other major medical or house bills to pay, that make you survive paycheck to paycheck. I don't think someone can afford a 'lavish' lifestyle in India for $200. She may be upset about other things, which is spilling over to this issue. Or it may be a valid issue if you don't let her send money to her parents.
I agree with the 2nd paragraph
Based on your post, I can also say that your girl is manipulative. It won't hamper even if you send them $500 a month. They are your parents. Your wife's a complete bi**h.
I think your salary is joint property with your wife. So if you send $200 to your parents your wife should be entitled to send $200 to her parents. And that is the fair way to do it.
Their parents are very rich. I don’t ask her anything in how she spends her money
I would just ask my wife to send $200/month to her parents to settle the argument.
That’s like two dinners, or one dinner for two. Why does your wife even know about such little expenses?
She asked me to make all bank accounts common. And calls me out in things
I guess you can open another account and tell her to stay the f*** away from your personal account. You need to support your parents. How you spend your salary is completely upto you.
I really hate women now. Wtf man
ur wife is bit#h
Off the topic, but Buy her a $200 gift a month and that will get better.
She needs the money to live her life so hard money is needed :(
Damnit oracle. Cisco is saying buy a gift for ur wife.