A friend set me up with her female friend and we started exchanging text messages. After about a week we decided to meet for a date. We met up and had a nice first date and great dates after that. But she wanted to find out why I never told her I was black before we met up. She didnāt pose it as a direct question; just slipped it in whiles we were just talking. I probably thought at the back of my mind my friend told her already. I told her I didnāt think it was a big deal and didnāt want to state it as if it mattered as she would eventually meet me anyway. Question: Should I have told her?If Yes, why?? Is it normal that she asked me why I didnāt disclose? Your thoughts please. TC 130k Portland
Blind date question on blind.. š¤
You should not have. She bringing it up just proved she cares more about race she dates than the person. Find a different fish.
You should have posted your avatars as introductions?
How come you guys didnāt exchange a picture atleast once before meeting?
Didnāt come up... donāt think a lady would like to send a random pic to a guy she doesnāt even know yet. We met up after just a week so..
It would have been odd if you would have mentioned without the topic come up. In my opinion she should learn about you before even talking.
That's just gross.
Hmm idk why she cares that much? Did you ask her why she cares? I feel thatās the more important question considering now that she knows youāre black.
Nah would have been weird.. seems like something your friend would have mentioned. Iām surprised she didnāt look you up on social media at all.
Did she give you her ethnicity background before meeting?
Lol nah
GET OUT! Dude, run for your life. There are plenty of girls out there, to whom that question wouldn't even cross their mind.
True, but most of them are black.
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Seriously?!! TC!!! Does that matter?!!!