Does anyone have a spouse who says that he/she doesnt need you. He/she is independent and doesnt care about you at all? I have one and i have no idea how to live happliy with my spouse?
Live and let live. Things will change with time. If not then time for change
Well then, find some “fun activities”
No point as she is always very busy in her work so we just hangout with friends ie she dont want to do anything except working eating n hanging out with frds
What does this translate to in actions? You don’t do any activities together? Financial decisions are made without consulting each other?
We dont make any financial decisions becoz of these issues and even after having more than half a million we r not buying home since last four yrs No activities other than hanging out with friends where we dont talk to each other plus we have one kid as well that put more restrictions
Go buy a house and then she’ll probably want to start discussing financial decisions together. (Don’t really do this though). She doesn’t need to need you, but she needs to respect you. She did marry you so she must have feelings for you to some degree. I would list all of your issues and really contemplate their prioritize based on her limitations. What do you truly need from her and your marriage to be happy? If she unwilling/incapable of discussing this face to face, perhaps writing would be better. I communicate with my spouse better in writing because I can articulate my thoughts and stay on point easier. Side note, though this sounds like the least of your problems at this point- We have a lot of kids so I understand the difficultly in going out (though you should also find a regular sitter for this). Try some dates at home- bake together, cards, read a book aloud etc..
Get a sugarbaby, ignore "independent" wife, wait for her to feel insecure, and fill those insecurities based upon positive response to your needs.
Right until she finds out, divorces you, and takes everything you own
This is where the relationship is headed anyway if you refuse to talk. I'm giving him a pathway for mental clarity and perspective. Also, you're an idiot if you don't sign a prenup before marriage.
Independent spouse is good. He/She shouldn't need you, but rather want to be with you. If he/she doesn't care for you then you might want to go to counseling. Being independent might not be an issue here like you seem to think.
Independence is good but if you make me feel that you dont need me isnt that issue? Plus i asked for counselling then her point was to go if you want to waste money. If she thinks this way then no point going in that direction either
Need = dependence... Want = desire. I am just speculating here to help you understand what I mean. Maybe before she "wanted" you because she needed you... And now after being independent she doesn't want you as she does not "need" you. Thats why you might need counseling to figure out if you really want to be with each other.
Sorry dude! looks like no kids. time to call it off!
Dude have one kid, super fucked :(
Oh missed that. Then focus on the kid. I'm sorry for your situation. Im an emotional, touchy feely person, and wife is not. But two kids. Daughter turned out like her too. Son is like me. Life goes on for the kids mostly. But I'm able to get some time as wife is stay at home. Yet, she is has all the friends and hanging out social life. For me it's work and kids, not even friends ( she judges too much, so I have up). So focus on the kid! And think it can be worse, count your blessings!!! Life is not easy
I would let her know I was hurt. That I want her to think she can count on me to support her to the best of my ability financially and emotionally. That I do want her to need me whole knowing she will be able to take care of herself should I die or she leaves or I leave. This likely has to do with her fears. I'd say that depending on one another is what families or couples do, and that it made me feel a bit family less.
Yeah, I don’t need you and I don’t care about you at all!
Man, this is gonna hurt. Some super successful people are so used to putting their wants and desires on the back burner that they don’t even see sexual attraction high on the list for partner qualities. These people sleep each night just fine without any emotional attachment to their spouse. Just like a cold robot.
Sad true... Living it.
He/She is a broken goods. If warranty has expired, get a new one.
I dont want to do that, i want to fix things n live happliy, but whenever i try to talk xxx dont want to talk n says everything is good, so bad
Not wanting to talk is an insurmountable problem. DTMFA