I only loved one guy in my life. He dumped me over a year ago, and we have not been in contact since. I haven't dated since the breakup, and currently just not interested in dating right now. I still think about him daily. He has a new girlfriend and seems happy. He's a nice guy and deserves to be happy. But I still feel so hurt. These thoughts do distract me from focusing on work. I know I have so much potential and a bright future if I just focus. I have so much to do, and I love what I'm doing..... But these thoughts pop up still all the time and it makes me feel sad. I hate this about me.... I don't know why the feelings are still as present as they are. I need help.... I feel pathetic.
How many guys have you dated?
4 boyfriends...Its rare I find myself attracted to anyone that likes me back.... For me he was the one.
Wow. How was his personality in comparison to yours?
Blind is not the right place to post this. Itās filled with sick socially awkward people who donāt often give the best advice. See a therapist if really needed
You right but that's kind of why I posted here. I'm a bit akward and thus the potential to connect with people is quite rate. So maybe people here understand how it feels to loose the one person you felt really connected to and love.
Judging by the comments thus far, that doesnāt seem accurate, Rusy
I was in a similar situation as yours and know exactly how you feel. The only remedy for me was a combination of time and learned to let things go. Youāre hanging onto hope and hope sometimes can be detrimental to your mindset after a break up. Try to hangout and see new places with your friends and family...it does wonders for me.
And already do go out, I'm quite productive now, and I travel more than many and have a blast. I should feel lucky but I still feel so sad inside.
Try revenge fuck. It works.
No, I'm not down for that.
Wise choice, that kind of thinking doesn't lead to anything productive
Get busy with activities you enjoy (not passivities like TV). Practice meditation to control your mind and emotions better.
I do now. I work out everyday and I work on what I love every day. Still not over my ex.
Maybe get a small pet or foster pets to put your affections on something?
If you want to avoid thinking about something, the way to achieve that is not by focusing on not thinking about it. Itās by finding something else or many other things to focus your attention on.
It took me two years after breaking up with my āoneā for me to start dating. Itās hard. But you really need to move on. It doesnāt make sense to pine for someone whoās moved on. Meeting my new bf helped me immensely. I went on a bunch of dates during that time. So many awful guys. Some nice ones. The guy that Iām dating was someone I was already friends with. Be open. Be optimistic. Youāll be ok. I promise.
He was waiting this whole time friendzoned and finally scored
Haha if weāre going to be honest here, Iām the one who liked him first. š
Generally trying a new hobby helps, it helps further to go for the hobby with single friends.
Sometimes you canāt be over someone until you find the next. Circle of life, just throw yourself out there and try to enjoy life
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So what happened is... I had to relocate to Louisiana for sometime. (I'm no longer there btw) but I didn't handle my relocation very well. I became depressed because I didn't like the culture/people/lifestyle... I was always bored and started watching TV and all these things lead me to be more demotivated at work as well as not taking the best care of myself. I became insecured which showed, and he had valid reasons for ending things. I'm grateful for his honesty and the beautiful times we spent together....and I know we will never get back together. It just hurts. I would of done anything for him.