Hi! I was wondering how I can take care of parents as they get older. Some options are : 1) move back to India, 2) get them here once I clear the GC hurdles (god knows when) etc though I'm concerned that health care costs might be crazy 3) move to a country like Singapore so I'm not too far and work is good too 4) move to Canada which is a more convenient version of (2) ie easier to get citizenship and cheap health care What do folks here think? Tc: 300k
What do they like? Do they like to move to US or Canada?
This is one of those questions with no good answer. Let us know if you find one.
Difficult choice if you both love your parents and career. Stay strong bruh / sista. I feel you and you r not alone 🍀🙌
Option 3 is the best choice IMO.You can be super close and have your own life and not take too much of a career hit Option 4: I’m not sure how moving to Canada will help you as Canada is really cold and isolated.Say you have to go urgently on a days notice you can do that from Singapore but not Canada
Vancouver feels exactly like Seattle without the jobs btw. If you're okay with the declining economy and (almost) lack of tech jobs and general loneliness, it's a pretty viable option.
That is the precise reason Option 3 is better.Singapore is more vibrant in every sense (economy,life,travel options etc)
Thanks for sharing!
You make it sounds like you are the decision maker for your parents. Have you ever asked them what they want?
I'm not. They'd prefer to stay in India but aren't opposed to moving abroad if it works out.
Maybe you should do what they want and try find a solution that can make them happiest.
Go back to India and stay with parents if you can
One of my friends moved back to India (Bengaluru) so that he could live with his parents. It didn’t turn out to be a good experience for anyone. His parents had lived in Delhi all their lives and it was very difficult for them to cope up in a new environment far away from their relatives and friends. It is very tough when your ecosystem gets taken away from you in your 60s esp when you have lived in that ecosystem all your life. The guy also could not fit himself in the work culture of India. After a few years, he decided to move back to US and moved his parents back to Delhi. Now they keep visiting him here. When it gets hot in Delhi they come and stay with him In Bay Area and when the festive season starts in India they go back to enjoy with their friends and extended family. That arrangement is working well for everyone now. To avoid the travel burden in old age, he makes sure that his parents fly comfortably in business class every year.
Its a question no one can answer for you, and anything which worked for others might not work for you. You have to decide your priorities. Everything else will fall into place after that.
None of the above. Keep them in India and stay in the US. Hire caretakers in India to look after them fulltime. Make trips to visit them to maintain a relationship.
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I dislike that option because I'd hate for them to be alone and far away in their old age