Why are guys more vocal/seem upset that they don’t have a gf compared to women with a bf?
I’m a guy in my mid 20’s and in Seatte, which more or less is 50/50 M:F. This should lead to the fact that there are as many women who are single as there are men who are single. Despite this, I hear significantly more guys complaining about not having a SO. Are there a lot women in long term relationships? Is there a polygamous cult I’m not aware of? Are women now more career focused and I just have antiquated beliefs? idk, what are your thoughts. TC: 190k
This post is why all the dorks are single
Also, the male peak is spread out a lot more than the female peak. So you have guys three decades apart in age all fighting for the same set of women less than one decade apart in age. Plus most single women aren't really single, they're still having sex with multiple guys but aren't officially in a public relationship. Most single guys on the other hand, are completely alone. Also, there are plenty of articles you can find from single post-wall women whining that they wasted their prime years chasing Chad and that they're alone and sad now.
Or maybe because the top 80% of women wants the top 20% of men?
Maybe that’s something that is hardcoded into their genetics 🧬
Maybe because women are used to being “hit on” all the time, and all they need is to get the fishing gear out.
As someone who has lived all around the US, Seattle women are objectively the least attractive... overweight, no fashion sense, greasy hair in ponytails, cotton candy colored hair, tattooed all over... a lot of dudes aren’t into the “Seattle look”. If you’re a dude in Seattle, you feel like there’s no hope as there’s far more single dudes than there are women... so you’re either miserable, or you settle. I’ve never seen a city where attractive men settle for unattractive women in the quantity that they do in Seattle. So, to answer your question, women can get a dude whenever they want! If you see a single woman - she’s single because she wants to be (hence happy or ok with it). If you see a single dude, it’s because he either doesn’t like his options, or honestly, can’t find a woman that’s into him (hence miserable).
Can't agree more with the last paragraph. Most women I know around me who are single made that choice. Most men on the other hand think those women are single because they can't find someone and are surprised at that fact lol lol. I would also say women tend to be more specific in the kind of man they want to date unlike men.
As an aside, I’ve always dated or had girlfriends (varying degrees of seriousness) in every other city I’ve ever lived in. Honestly, I’d say I’m a weak 7 or strong 6. I’ve normally dated girls who were also 6’s or 7’s. In Seattle, when I did rarely see a 6/7 - she’s dating a dude who’s probably a 7/8... and if she’s single, then she had 0 interest in me because “she can do better”. The girls that were interested in me? 3/4/5’s. Ew. I’m sorry but we all have limits to what we find attractive and as a relatively in shape dude, I’m not dating some tubbo - because in no way is “big beautiful”. I’ve since left Seattle and have had 0 problem dating. So to whatever lonely, miserable dudes that are out there in Seattle, let me say this - the grass is most definitely greener outside Seattle. P.s. it’s so bad that me and several friends that are fellow Seattle ex-pats coined the term “a Seattle 7”. What does that mean? It’s a girl who’s a 4/5 but thinks she’s a 7 because everyone else around her is so ugly that she over values herself.
First of all ur social circle is probably mostly men so you only hear men complain but trust me women aren’t different
Not in eng, have some good friends from work who are women. I will say though that they might not be talking about relationships around me, so yeah I guess I really don’t know
I read this few days ago: when a man becomes independent and earns money, he feels like he wants more women. When a woman becomes independent and earns money, she feels like she doesn't need a man. I believe there is some truth to it.
... and that translates to: women need men only for money.
It’s ok she will end up alone with cats. Regret kicks in too late, when all the eggs have turned to powder.
My thoughts as a man: Women are just as frustrated with and challenged by dating as men are. They just have different frustrations. Both struggle equally to find someone that they are heavily attracted to that is also heavily attracted to them while wanting the same thing they want. Many women are so frustrated that they’ve given up on their dream of finding a man that they are in love with to settle down with. American women spend like a zillion dollars every year on magazines in hopes that it will help them land one of the men they are attracted to. I suspect that women complain just as much as men about dating. But they probably do it in different ways. Men post online anywhere whereas women feel more comfortable posting online when they know the audience is mostly women. Similarly they talk about it more when they know the audience is mostly women (or sympathetic men). If a guy complains that it’s hard to find someone, he will get lectured that he’s being foolish by other men. If a girl complains that it’s hard to find someone, she will get lectured that she’s foolish by other women AND get attacked by men. Most men don’t realize that even though women are just as interested in sex and dating and romance as men are, they have evolved to be much more pickier than men. This is because the negatives and risks associated with pregnancy are much higher for women. /end rant
the top 20% of men can date multiple women and the top 80% of women are all going after them and ignoring the rest
Very true but id say top 40% men have top most of top 80% women going after them.
Blueballing
Seattle isn't 50:50 M:F. There are far more men than there are women here.
And there are far more socially awkward guys than girls as well, which probably accounts for the single ratio
It’s pretty close to 50/50 actually, although I will admit if we look at people under 40 there are much more dudes