How to not feel retarded?
I feel retarded for doing 5 years of grad school, instead of getting a job with 100k plus salary and the raises I'd have gotten. I feel retarded for not buying crypto, even just $20 or whatever. I feel retarded for moving in with my girlfriend prematurely and having the relationship turn into this weird roommate / intertwined living situation. I feel retarded for sitting on cash instead of investing in stocks, or real estate. I can't fucking ever make up for this fuck up. It's all I can think of and it's consuming me and fucking my sleep and daily focus.
Losing lots of weight helped... Lots of chub to hide the nub!
At least you got that going for you. Which is nice.
You know we can’t have a thread without someone asking “are you Indian?” 😂
Sorry again. Mixed white middle eastern. But I'm also short. That doesn't make me feel retarded though
It wasn’t relevant to the question rather I was just making an observation how that question always gets asked by someone.
I have a serious question...did you sniff glue as a child?
No but I have a penchant for sniffing dry erase markers as an adult. Not excessively though
It just sounds like you keep making the “safe bets” when you could very well be taking calculated risks and use your acquired knowledge to mitigate the “dumb risk”. Don’t put up more than you’re prepared to lose. And don’t gamble with your rent money. Prepare yourself to interview for the job you want. Learn what questions they ask and whether they are mostly technical or behavioral. Tons of interview advice can be found on here. Just start a thread.
I just got a new job, but it won't make up for the 5 years I didn't earn a dime. It won't make up for the increase in housing market in the past 5 years, not saving for retirement, you get the idea
You have to force yourself to offset it somehow. Work 5 years longer or be 15% cheaper every day.
Chill bro...people always feel that the road not taken would have been better. You have your whole life to earn. Stop feeling sorry for the past and enjoy the present.
You can’t let FOMO and regret of bad decisions rule your life. One can’t reasonably expect to pick up on every single great investment and trend and expect to do the absolute best stock picking and investment choices possible. It’s impossible to be 100% optimal. You’re doing fine, just comparing yourself to unrealistic standards. Every single other person who didn’t get into crypto feels the same. I read a stat that Millenials keep the most cash of all the generations, somewhere upwards of 50% cash. Just knowing about stock and investing now means you’re incredibly lucky and ahead of the curve. Investing in your 20s is still amazing when many live paycheck to paycheck and don’t have a big 401k to save them at 65. Read some books about risk, decision making, human thinking and cognitive biases. Since 3/4 of your regrets appear to be financial, read some books about investing like a Random Walk Down Wall Street to get fundamentals, then always know that there are crazy things that don’t abide by the normal rules, set aside a small percent you feel OK gambling with and make risky investments. The feeling retarded seems to come from a sense of inferiority at “bad” monetary decisions, which should not lead to feeling “retarded”, just less rich than some people. If it’s the realization that you care more about money than you thought you did that’s fine, just adjust for it but don’t get too greedy Where you are now is probably ahead of 95% of Americans and 99% of the world. It’s only behind a tiny few percent of people who got ahead by a few years. And even so constantly comparing yourself is not healthy.
It feels less of a decision problem (you will be fine in life) than a mental/attitude/self esteem issue. Or perfectionism. Try starting with the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson, or some other resources
Hey at least you have a PhD and work at Lyft. I have a BS from a shit school and probably gonna work at Amazon.
Didn't finish the PhD, drop out. Was best move of my life.. imagining I'd have stayed a couple more years and tried to get an academic job somehow makes my current situation look good
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Embrace the void You’ve missed out on so much. You will never be able to recover. You were so close to retiring. But now you won’t. For several decades. Absorb that. Dwell on it. Kubhler Ross the moment. And when you get to “acceptance” you will realize you have a pulse and that means you have infinite possibilities ahead. Or take a short-cut by doing some peyote.
This is the best thing I've read on blind
Jezus my brain is fucked up I thought this was Amazon's "my IQ too low" guy again lol
No, sorry to disappoint. :D
Same lol