I thought i broke up, but its messy..
I recently broke up with my boyfriend , and have been depressed for several days. We both travelled quite a bit together and had a fun time , but i think he is a weird guy cuz once he would sense that I am happy / having a good time .. he would use subtle put downs and intentionally hurt me. If i am hurt and cry, he would say i am sensitive and cry to get away with my bad behavior. We are both devs , and i sometimes sense a jealousy too. Anyways , i broke up with him and moved out. The catch is that our parents are family friends , and were aware of our relationship. My parents were a bit hurt with what happened with me and when they questioned his parents, his parents said that the two families should work to bring us back together , but they are now having a few relatives over and would get back later. They have disappeared for more than a month now . My parents keep asking me if i have heard back from my ex or his parents. But i havent. I am constantly worried about this/ for my future. How do i handle this situation ??? Edit : Let me add this, i am absolutely clueless on what his parents intentions are behind saying that and disappearing . Can anyone see through this shitty act ?? 😨
And they say Indian arranged marriages are drama.
Have an honest conversation with your parents and let them know that you were not happy in the relationship. I am sure they will value that. Without this information, they will keep trying.
Trust your knowledge of your bf when you broke up. The brain will make up stories afterwards.
What's the situation that worries you? You think he is weird and broke up. Are you worried about the patch up?
I am confused TBH. Mainly cuz of what his parents did. Also, I am a travel buff and there were things we both enjoyed doing together. I sometimes worry about if I’d really find someone with the same interests.
Confusion is a part of breakup. Trust me, you would find someone better. Been going through breakup and i can see growth happening.
He is just BF, move on. Life is too short to worry about BFs. Get over and find new one
You are just experiencing fear of missing out. Give it a couple of months. There are plenty of amazing people who share the same interests as yourself.
I went through rough patches in my marriage, and believe me when I say that you dodged a bullet. You deserve happiness, and if he’s so insecure and jealous that he can’t let you have your moment without screwing it up, kicking him out is one of the best life decisions you’ll ever made. You may ask whether you were just imagining the issue, and that he was actually ok. It does not matter. You’re not happy with him, and that is that. Your parents might be friends with his, but with all due respect, they are not the one living with him. Do not, and I repeat, do not get back together on account of his parents or yours. This is your life, not theirs. Good luck.
Dump anything that doesn’t serve you for the best! Even if it’s friends/family relationship
You will definitely find someone for the travel part and also someone who isnt intimidated by you or jealous of you so much so that they dont care about intentionally hurting you. Tell your parents that you want to move on, and just do that. Move on. There is only one life, dont waste your time. I'm back to leetcode now. Gotta get out of here... all the best to you.
This is stupid.
^ This
Ditto