How to fathom lies of the past

+1 when I do any of these things even now, rather than feeling pleasure, I feel guilty pleasure and I am in my 30s already

Had the same issues, forced myself to accept that my parents have been wrong in the way they brought me up and for no fault of their own. Being away from for years together has probably helped alter my mindset.

Ask AtGoogle directly. This question itself is his forte.

Rm -f

More seriously, though, I’m amused that you believed those things 😂😂😂

By doing what’s called “growing up” and “thinking on your own”.

Hopefully some of those lies helped you get in Google. Now that you are an adult, you can use your brain and make your own decisions.

Download tinder and have a month of fun

I don’t think you can just delete all of it. The general consensus among neuroscientists and psychologists is that indoctrination fed to us when we were little, and many other foundational childhood experiences can’t be easily erased. Most attempts at this sort of erasure only suppresses them into the subconscious, which is never a good thing in the long term. However, they can be significantly reshaped and modified, thanks to the natural flexibility of the brain often referred as neuroplasticity. In your case, you could try reconditioning the stuff you were told into other stuff that’s more useful for your survival today. Sublimate the essence of what they were saying and use that to recondition. For example, if they said having a pint of beer was back, you can reshape it into thinking excessive drinking is bad. Being nice to everyone and letting others walk over you , transform to —> having empathy for people less fortunate than you (but within reason). I realize that not everything can be transformed this way. Especially if you find that they could have no possible reason or rationale behind certain things they said. Or worse if some of the stuff they said came out of bigotry. If that happens, you just have to try the best you can to decondition yourself from it and keep moving.

Wonder which among these learnt things do you need to unlearn, which needs limits. If you have kids reflect onyour actions and words at end of day to check if you have been unknowingly imposing these onto others and over time if you put in conscious effort you can slowly improve cz of neuroplasticity like Amazon said.But Check out about emotional intelligence - might help.