Men shoot their shot when a woman who they are interested in becomes single, sometimes a little too obviously or desperately. Where as from my and some of my friends' experiences, it seems women/girls hit on men when they are taken, but don't respond to the same men when they become single. I understand at some level we all desire what we can't have.May be there is more to it, may be there isn't, I'm curious to know what's the deal behind this. #dating
Recruiters hit up ex-FANG. Also, not a good analogy. Recruiters also hit up if you're at FANG and say you're open to new opportunities. Not sleezy while looking to change jobs, quite cringy doing the same with relationship. You either didn't read the question or didn't get it.
Agree, that's the norm nowadays
There exists a word polygamy. And such thing is not uncommon today, just not legally. There must be reasons behind it, and OP's finding is one of them.
Apex and my thoughts match on this one too like many other relationship/women stuff. It's pre-selection and validation. Woman wants to ensure they get the best genetic pool for their offspring hence increasing their chance of survival (survival of the fittest). The pre-selection by other woman signals them that the man has some good traits. Woman don't generally walk away from men unless there are issues so when it happen it makes the other one wonder what those issues were hence creating doubts on the pre-selection.
Men just want any woman (so long as she isn't ugly or fat) and they see their chances are maximized if they hit on a single woman than committed woman. Women, on the other hand, rely on their friends for information. If another woman has dumped him, there has to be a reason. It's like a red flag and they don't want to play that game of betting on a guy with red flags. They'd rather find someone fresh.
"Men just want any woman ... " - True , 99% of the time . "they see their chances are maximized if they hit on a single woman than committed woman." I laughed so hard at this comment of maximised chances on a single woman.....Isn't that the whole point unless one wants drama / be a home wrecker /one is a poly relationship ? "Women, on the other hand, rely on their friends for information." - I know this is true, and exists for a reason. They should look out for red flags, and have each other's back. I'm a big supporter of this. " If another woman has dumped him, there has to be a reason. It's like a red flag and they don't want to play that game of betting on a guy with red flags." - ok...the archaic assumptions that the guy is the one that get dumped, or if a relationship ends that must have been due to something horrible... " They'd rather find someone fresh." This is the funniest and ironic perspective of all for this thread . If yall want someone "fresh", someone who's neither the dumpee nor the dumper, then why hit on men in relationship in the first place ? ๐๐
Ugh I am out of this. This requires a whole different discussion into a man vs a woman's thought process.
Because attraction is often proportional to how many people find you attractive. If 1000 people genuinely think youโre hot, you are perceived to be hot by other people in the vicinity. If only 5 people say youโre hot, no one cares irrespective of how you are.
I wonder how many of these comments are from women, and how many are a result of mansplaining.
That's very well possible ๐. But I'd rather they speak for themselves.
I am a woman, read my comment above
Woman here, if I find out the guy is taken I would NOT chase him and move on... Its up to the guy if he wants to update me that his relationship status changed and if we wanna try again but I ain't gonna sit down and wait for him/watch his relationship or worse break that relationship. Also maybe the way you act when you are single aka your desperation level is too high, that's a turn off. Bring it down and you can have have better luck
iโve noticed in the bay area itโs possible to have an apathetic standoff where both parties try and care the least. maybe itโs a cali thing ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ
Nah I've been like this back when I was living abroad too ๐ Honestly life is too short, don't need to waste it waiting
Pre-Selection. Why do recruiters only hit you up afte ryou get hired by faang?