Anyone else feel guilty when quitting?
No matter how much I hate or love a job, there is always a part of me that feels guilty when I quit. I’m about to quit my 4th job of my life and every time I feel like breaking a rule. Anyone else?
You shouldn't feel guilty. They wouldn't think twice before firing you if they didn't need you anymore.
They might feel guilty when firing you, who knows
Have switched around a lot. I tend to overwork passionately which leads a manager to think that I am a permanent member of the team when in reality that’s my way of working and I would do that for anyone who keeps paying me well above market average and feeding me good work. If they start taking me for granted, I will drop the resignation letter with no intention of accepting a counter, which unfortunately confuses them but I have never felt guilty about it. I have done my job when I was there, have a clear conscience and will of course, assist with the transition.
Wow, stunned so many people are saying yes. Attrition (regrettable or not) is a fact of corporate life, and every single company out there understands this. You stick with a company and they stick with you as long as it makes sense for both sides, and when that's no longer the case and it's not possible to fix it, you part ways, hopefully amicably. That's just the way it is.
It’s called being a human. You feel bad/guilty for your team(s) not for the actual company.
what if your team or manager is the reason you’re leaving? Another part of ‘being a human’ is taking care of yourself, and your family first. Stop being so reductive
Another way to look at this: there are only 4 possible endings for your employment at a company: 1) You retire or die 2) The company goes under 3) The working relationship ends because you want it to 4) The working relationship ends because the company wants it to #2 and #4 are objectively bad for you. Most people aren't really looking for #1. That only leaves #3. So #3 happening the majority of the time is really a _good_ sign for you (unless you're just always landing at shitty jobs you hate and want to quit).
1 is similar to 3, and 2 is similar to 4. basically separation is voluntary or involuntary🤷🏽♂️
Interesting take, I’ll start using this! Love the breakdown.
I feel the same way as OP. I understand and agree with everything said here, but there’s a deep feeling of dread I just can’t shake regardless.
Is not the company, is the people you leave behind. Fuck the company but I care about my coworkers
Exactly
+1
Despite what others will say I think it’s normal to feel guilty leaving a job where many people depend on you to meet their own career goals, or have gone out of their way to give you opportunities.
Nobody favors anyone in corporate. Some inherently good worker help you out - but that also helps them and if you don’t cooperate they will unlikely to continue helping you. Additionally, opportunities aren’t given away - rather earned. Sometimes it falls on someone’s laps but if he/she continues to get new opportunities to grow- that means he/she tries their best and have great work ethic/performance.
Companies aren’t loyal to you, why would you be loyal to them?
I feel guilty for whatever person they trick into joining in my place
No. I owe them nothing, loyalty is a 2 way street.
This. If they valued you, they’d pay you more and you wouldn’t even contemplate the new offer.
More pay than what they paid you last month ? Or more than your coworkers ? Or more than what any other company could possibly pay you ?